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Hello ,
I am currently working as an consultant for kyndryl as cloud sme with 7b band on lower level 13.5 lakhs. My contract is coming to an end so I contacted my manager was offered an job at same 7b level at 17 lakhs . Should I take the offer , will I have growth in the Company? I have an another offer from hcl 18 lakhs . Kyndryl Inc.
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Get out of there. It won't get better. And the trauma from this will build. I worked in an extremely toxic firm a decade ago where people got fired and quit CONSTANTLY. I knew the first week I had to get out. That took 2 1/2 years. I still have bad dreams about that place once in a while.
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Is this your first job and if not how long did you stay in your prior job(s)?
What do you mean the pay is incredible? Is it 2x cravath or something?
I do not really have any advice here but I wanted to chime in because I’m going through something eerily similar. I started at my firm about 6 months ago. I’ve heard that my boss yells at others but I wasn’t sure if I believed it. Recently my boss berated another attorney in the office. It was loud enough for everyone in the office to hear. I completely empathize with the fear of your boss’ sounds. I too am jumpy and feel very frightened.
I’m in a slightly different position than you because I have a “senior” title but I know the pressure of “one year” being the recommended sweet spot to save face in interviews down the line. That said, I know that this position isn’t my forever position and I am taking steps to pivot. You can start taking steps now too even if you decide to wait until one year to leap.
I feel this in my core and it brings back terrible memories. In my view life is too short and there is nothing wrong with always looking for another opportunity. The market is tough so it could take awhile.
Without more information it’s hard to know what might be helpful. When I dealt with something similar I was able to develop relationships with other partners that kept me busy and eventually protected and insulated me from the nonsense behavior of one or two others. This helped me, though not to say I didn’t still have tough periods. I also got into therapy. I am in a much better situation now but to this day have to do the work when I get that pit in my stomach.
I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this. Not everywhere or everyone is like this, and no one deserves to be treated that way no matter the industry or expectations. It’s hard, but try to understand that the behavior is a reflection of them and their issues - not of you and your work.
As someone with over 30 years working with attorneys my advice is to start looking for a new job today. This attorney will never change and will never apologize for their behavior. Not all attorneys are like this. The attorneys that behave this way are what gives this profession it's bad reputation. Your resume will be just fine. Trust me and get out now before they give you PTSD.
Life is too short to stay. The hits to your mental health and self-regard as a professional are too great. And you don’t want to unwittingly replicate this behavior in your practice or personal life.
Also, the shorter your stint, the less references by or association with their firm will taint your career.
Sounds like he has untreated or untreatable mental issues. How fast you leave might depend on how naturally emotionally porous you are and whether you can genuinely not let it affect you. Regardless of when you leave, the “grey rock” method might be helpful for you and the paralegals
This is sooo helpful!! Thank you!!
Did the MP actually angry scream, or did they just call you out publicly in a harsh manner? I have seen partners who are actually nice people overall have this terrible misguided approach to “mentoring” young associates/paralegals where they feel the need to call them out (often publicly) in a harsh manner for every small mistake. If that is the case and you choose not to leave (not saying you shouldn’t), I would encourage you to try not to take the manner in which they provide their feedback personally.
I realize this won’t be a popular opinion, but I speak from personal experience.
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A3. 100% agree.
Run you can always explain your story. Was easy to land something.
Were these paralegals up to speed with expectations and training? How long have they worked with said MP?
I got an ulcer from stress from my first job that i still have to take meds and endoscopies for many years later even though all of my other jobs have been great. I only stayed 3 years, but the damage was done.