Just got back after maternity leave and they stuck me on a different team. I have a different manager (I think?? No one officially told me) who hasn't given me any feedback. I feel like an outsider and also like I'm just "helping out", and therefore have no real say in the work.

Wondering if they did this because I'm a mom now and they didn't think I'd want to be on a stressful launch brand? I'm probably overthinking but I feel like I'm bad at my job all of a sudden.

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When this happened to me after my first leave I was so upset. I talked to my manager and she was horrified that I interpreted it as a knock on me as a worker. My guess is they are not in tune with how you are feeling and could be reading the situation. Talk to your boss about what you want and I’m sure you can figure out a resolution.

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It’s possible that it’s not personal at all, that they had to move things around to cover while you were out and now it makes sense to put you in this new role. But it’s so hard not to internalize that as negative self-talk. I do it too. I’ve been trying to change my internal narrative to be more accepting and understanding. Sometimes people are just really busy and can trigger concern without intending to or realizing it. Hang in there! Ask directly and kick butt in your new role. Welcome back!

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Definitely speak up - find out who your manager is and make sure they know you want to dig into work. Sometimes companies are really bad at internal shuffled even if they mean well

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Is there a positive way to spin this? Maybe this means you get a fresh start. Working with new people can push you in ways and help you grow. I know it's new and jarring, but maybe this will lead to something better!

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The Motherhood Penalty. Sigh... Definitely been there.
I would speak up, make it clear that you’re back and ready to tackle the work. Get & set some clear expectations from them (and also some boundaries for yourself). Be gentle with yourself - this is definitely a life-change like none other.

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