Manager talks to me like a petulant child. How to stand my ground and correct them? Their whole new thing is to accuse then criticize when I respond as being defensive.

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Well, my manager once called me petulant. I’m a woman and a woman of color. So, you know, I’d say just being made to feel like a petulant child is a step above being told you are one. lol

In all seriousness, sometimes an honest conversation about how you’re feeling and how they’re feeling can help clear the air. Because it does seem like they might be having some frustrations on their end, too.

Work through your talking points with ChatGPT. Practice answers for their potential pushbacks. Then, ask if they have time for a coffee. Be prepared to listen as well as speak.

If that doesn’t help, agree with others in the move-on camp. I did, and I’m much happier for it.

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One of the 48 Laws of Power is “never outshine the master.” You are trying something that has a high failure rate.

The best way is to be humble, fake-apologize, and ask them for advice on how to be better. Your manager will not treat you like a child anymore.

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Mangers never seem to give helpful advice for some reason.

This was written to me after an internal call. It’s happening frequently.
Basically telling me to shut up. I was also just in Europe. Lost in translation is not an unprofessional term.

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I kind of get where they’re coming from about the “lost in translation” remark. It is easy to see how it could be misconstrued if English isn’t their native language.

Post some more screenshots for us so we can get a better idea of what it is about the way they speak to you that irks you

I had a manager like this. I couldn’t fix it I asked for a new account. But document all examples and share with HR and their manager. Even if they don’t do anything with it, you’ll CYA

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