My wife and I just had a baby boy and are getting a lot of pressure from her family to get him circumcised. Not for religious reasons but for social ones, they are worried he wouldn’t fit in. I am opposed to doing this our pediatrician said there was no appreciable health benefit and that today it is about 50/50 circumcised vs not in the US (much lower circumcision rates elsewhere) Is there something I am missing here?

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The science on the benefits of circumcision is changing. A lot of the associated benefits may have more to do with penal hygiene than the actual pathology of the diseases that it is supposed to prevent or lower the risk for. In this day and age, it is perfectly possible to maintain good genital hygiene without circumcision.

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Don't bend to the pressure. It is your and your wife's call to decide what is right for him. There is no medical benefit whatsoever, he will not be ostracized for it.

Any place that you need to cut off a piece of your body to fit in isn't a place to be. The US isn't a place you need to worry about that, and you can see the statistics shifting to prove it.

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Doctor here: circumcision is an extremely safe and non-traumatic (for the baby) procedure. It can be hard for parents to think about it or see their newborn with a wound that (quickly) heals. As for health benefits, they are absolutely real and ‘appreciable’ is relative (decreased UTIs and STD risk is statistically significant, up to you what % decrease is ‘worth it’).

All of that said, it is absolutely your and your wife’s choice and if you don’t support it or believe it necessary, then don’t do it! Cultures differ and you should do what you think is best. But I wouldn’t view it as an assault on your child...from a clinical standpoint.

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Don’t do it. If it were me, I’d tell her family to not interfere in my family matters.

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Midwest based and we didn’t do it. Honestly just felt so weird to have a surgical procedure after he was born just because. Numbers of circumcisions are dropping.

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Dont do it

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When my son was born my wife said it was my call and that she had no opinion. I was originally planning to do it, but ultimately decided not to since there was not a religious or compelling medical reason to do so. Seemed crazy to do it without a good reason.

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Father of three boys here. We took an unconventional route and engaged a rabbi to perform the procedure on all three of them (we aren’t Jewish). Thought was that while we wanted to have the boys circumcised, we’d rather have someone who has experience with the procedure as it’s a mixed bag at the hospital. He did an excellent job on all three.

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C1 I wish. Spaced out over 5 years and his prices rose faster than Bitcoin!

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I would personally never allow it for my sons, but I also live in a country where it is viewed as abuse to most of the public if your circumcising your children if no medical reason.

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I completely get the social pressure in the high school locker rooms, but like someone said, it’s really 50-50 and you should do what you are more comfortable with.

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If you are circumcised you should consider it so that he and daddy look the same. If not, same logic applies

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Don’t do it

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