newlywed here and this is most painful thing to watch. My husband experiments with ten wrong ways to do something before finally trying my suggestion, then acts like it was his idea all along! Do they eventually evolve, or is this just the default setting?

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I’ve learned to do it my wife’s way first. If it works, great; if not, I can pull the “we already tried your way” card and go do it the right way.

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I don't think I could marry someone who both didn't respect my opinions and wasn't gracious when I was right?

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and forgiving when I was wrong

Some people are more stubborn than others, I know sometimes I am in my marriage too. If it is over silly things, I don’t worry too much about it. If it is serious things, might be good to sit down and actually talk about it. I will say after a decade of marriage, we have both evolved a lot in that time!

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Your man sounds dumb and fragile. Two very unattractive qualities to me personally. Have you pointed this out to him? That being so pig headed dumb makes him unattractive to you?

I wouldn’t have tolerated it to the point of marriage, but I think you should start letting him fail and make him ask you specifically for your advice.

Stop volunteering it. Also, if he tries to say you misremembered telling him I would keep notes, screenshots, and recordings.

People not admitting to stealing my ideas makes me white hot with rage though. I couldn’t do what you’re doing.

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I’ve been married for 6 years and with him for 13 years… my man is about as stubborn as they come and will go out of his way to avoid following my suggestions. I finally figured out that I needed to changed how I made my suggestions and now he follows them and it works. Imagine that! I had to stop saying “I told you so” and just keep the win to myself.

Unless it's with my stuff (e.g., how I want my clothing laundered), I don't have to tell my husband how to do anything. He's smart, capable, and resourceful. This just isn't an issue in my marriage.

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