Not as traditional but wanted perspective on 2 addictions:
1. Work - For a long time I was on call 24/7. I'd have to check my phone constantly. I could get called out middle of the night. I had no balance... and I actually quit that job several months ago but still find myself unable to turn off thinking about work.
2. My phone - So now that I dont have work 24/7 I still pickup my phone and find myself mindlessly scrolling but I dont even enjoy it, being on my phones just a habit I cant kick.

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I don't know if this would be helpful for you, as you didn't mention drugs or alcohol, but now that I've been sober a while, I've come to find that the same work and God-consciousness that helped me get and stay sober can very much be applied to lesser addictions.

Little did I know that alcohol was just a symptom of a broader issue.

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To boil it down, when I am completely sober, I can get uncomfortable in my own skin, and there's a sense that life isn't good enough or going to plan. Alcohol was the perfect escape until it wasn't anymore, and today's vices give the same escape in the moment to a lesser degree.

When I temper my ego, I get right-sized, and I'm no longer afraid of getting something I feel that I don't deserve or afraid of not getting something I feel that I do deserve. There's a higher power working in my life who's got my back, and the more comfortable I am in life, the less likely I am to turn to vices for relief.

There's more to it, but the work being done is prayer, meditation, journaling, and serious introspection with the help of someone willing to give outside perspective. My mind is what makes me uncomfortable, so it's highly beneficial to talk to someone who has no stake in a given situation.

When I was on shift work I was the same way, for a long time I would have Phantom Vibrations and would just check my phone in fear that I missed something.

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I'm asking here because I still see these as addictive habits that don't serve me. It's fine to think about work or check your phone but when its constant you start to feel powerless, like work overrules everything in your life. And its a waste to be mentally elsewhere as you miss whats in front of you - its not fair to my family. I spent so much time away from them that I am now physically home but habitually still find myself distracted.

So I was wondering if anyone else has had similar experiences and had success with reducing screen time via mindfulness or other approaches.

I have had similar experience and my phone habit may have done more damage to my relationship than alcohol. Being present without being present. I havent reached my bottom though and I'm unwilling to do the work to change. My issue is that I'm extremely lonely in my relationship and the phone gives me an outlet to socialize with other people and have some kind of connection .

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