Sibling is 52 days sober from heroin/cocaine, but I just found a syringe and alcohol wipes under their pillow.

They have been passing observed urine tests, how is it possible that they’re using? Any ideas?

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Addiction is a sneaky smart foe. Nothing you can do unfortunately except take care of yourself and not protect them from any consequences. Al-anon or nar-anon meetings may help YOU- I’d encourage you to look up meetings in your area if you aren’t going already! Prayers for your sib.

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My heart goes out to you OP. I second the comment(s) about al-anon to help you deal with loving an addict. Best of luck.

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Maybe he was thinking about it, but didn’t actually do it. Is it a used syringe?

Also BCG, my brother ended up being my #1 support / confidant throughout my sobriety. I lied to his face for years and he never gave up on me. I just want to thank you on behalf of your sister. Addicts are NOT easy to love & help. If you ever need someone to talk to, please feel free to reach out to me.

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100% sorry to say. Addicts cheat on urine tests all the time in brilliant ways. We're a crafty bunch.

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