Starting to feel some separation anxiety/guilt as we are starting up daycare again next week for my 2yo. It was fine for him to go before and while I actually went to work but now my husband and I are perm. WFH. As much as I loved the chaos and having him around the last 3 months, it’s not forever sustainable. But now I feel guilty for working and not trying to make it work with all of us at home. Just venting as I am sad that this is time is ending.

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I had all the same anxieties with my 2yo, but it’s been so good for everyone. She loves going (never even looks back at me when I drop her off) and we love having entire days to get work done. I finally feel like I can be a good parent AND good at my job again. Before I was floundering at both. And even though I was super sad, I still see more of her because I don’t deal with commutes.

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I am extremely worried about health implications of daycare. We don’t know anything about the long term effects of infection, and the kawasaki syndrome feels like the tip of the iceberg. (And I have a bit of grace here, as ours hasn’t re-opened yet. But I am absolutely dreading what we’re going to do when the time comes to make that choice.)

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I feel you 100% on this. I have a 1year old, and I know I can't keep him home with me forever and also sustain my job. But how do know it's safe??? My daycare actually closed permanently due to COVID, so I now I have to find another one...IF we feel comfortable sending him. It's a lot to take in and figure out.

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Understand that but at the same I’m eager to get my 4 year old back in daycare. For my mental health I need a break. My daughter desperately needs social interaction, a schedule, responsibilities (from someone that’s not me) and a learning program.
I have zero guilt about it. I feel I’ll be a better parent & set a good example bc I can give her back what she loved & show her mom has an independent life too.

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Feeling all of this for my four year old (and me) right now!

I had the exact same thought process, feeling guilty, wavering and then at the first day at drop-off my 3yo daughter waltzed in like PEACE! She has been so happy to be going to school and getting all the attention and interaction. It’s better for everyone’s mental health to get a break and for your child to have playmates. Try not to feel guilty! I bet it will go great.

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You need to get work done more efficiently and effectively. Baby needs to socialize to grow into an independent and emotionally rich person. You got this!

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Getting that too and my cutie goes back next week. But I’m excited to have more mental energy.

Believe this was shared on another thread by someone else but Emily Oster (author of Expecting Better) has partnered with a Harvard medical professor to compile all the objective Covid data at the website Covid Explained which you may find useful. This section on Covid and Kids helped put me at ease ( though it ultimately still comes down to personal comfort level)


https://explaincovid.org/explainers/kids-and-covid-19

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