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You should have asked him how was HIS experience being pregnant and giving birth. Cause men know everything about it, right?
Right?? He did feel compelled to tell me his wife was 8 days late with their first, which obviously makes him an expert in the matter, because all women and their pregnancy experiences are exactly the same.
WTF. If you can do it in a straightforward way, you should let him know how his comment came across in the interest of giving him the ability to grow as a manager for next time. You didn't ask for his opinion, you were giving him an update on a very personal decision (one that he has no right to be involved in nor does he understand, regardless of if he has a wife / kids. He's never been pregnant.) I'm also pregnant right now and some of the male leadership comments are just straight up ridiculous. 🙄
Loop in HR and let them know when you’re finishing for mat leave. Then formally confirm the date with your boss in writing and cc HR! It’s none of his business quite frankly. What a moron
Eww. Men mansplaining pregnancy to pregnant women is the grossest. It’s your prerogative to take whatever time you want or can before or after the birth of your child.
I worked up until the last day with both of mine, and they both came early (first at 39w, and second at 37w). So in both cases, I kind of had to leave things wherever they were at. Also in both cases, I WFH the last full month of my pregnancy because I had severe Braxton-Hicks contractions. I guess now, we are all WFH... but at that time (pre-COVID) it was a relief. My water broke at night both times, but I really wanted to avoid going into labor while in the office.
When I was pregnant, I took Fridays and Mondays off for 4-6 weeks before my due date and it was amazing. So worth it.
Revisit the conversation and inform him you’re taking the time, beginning X date, for your own well being. (That covers a lot of ground, and it’s none of his damn business past that.) If it becomes an issue, take it to HR.
What an ass. Stand your ground and take whatever weeks you want, and like others have said, loop in HR. I took two weeks off before my due date (my daughter also arrived 8 days late, as it were...), and let me tell you, it was bliss. I spent most of it watching bad Xmas films and eating bonbons, and I wasn’t bored one bit!
It’s valuable to be able to wrap up all of your work before you actually go into labor and have to drop everything, and a 2-week buffer (most likely) gives you that peace of mind. That’s something management should be able to understand. And your coworkers will appreciate it, too!