We’re thinking about whether we should have a third child. We already have two children, and we’re financially stable with no financial burden. But we’re wondering—is the transition from two kids to three really that difficult? Any experiences you can share? Or tips?

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If you're fertile, by all means!! The more the merrier. What better gift to your children than more siblings, when you're gone they'll have each other

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We only have 2 but I feel like having 3 kids is the ultimate status symbol.

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You must live in nyc

Honestly having the third was the easiest transition, no concerns there. Just accept that it’s super chaotic, organizing after school activities will be a mess, and embrace the minivan! ❤️

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There’s a lot of research supporting large families teaches children more than 1:1. However 1:1 is important when they’re babies. Lookup the outcomes and see what you value more.

The jump from one to two was infinitely more of a shock to the system than the jump from two to three. Parent-child and sibling relationships aren’t fractions, they’re multipliers.

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I got 5.. I am barely hanging on.. LOL

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My way oversimplified summary.
0-1 was easy
1-2 was hell
2-3 super easy
3-4 couldn’t tell a difference.

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1 to 2 was the hardest and was a huge stress on my marriage. 2 to 3 was a breeze in comparison.

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We just said screw it and went for it. Will have a 4 year old and 2 under 2 when they’re here. Pray for us lol

Yeah like I said it was definitely humbling but glad I did it and got the support I needed. Hit rock bottom and now back to myself so just want to share any wisdom of how essential support is in the equation. It can get out of control fast. Glad you have help

A man I know said, "Never let them outnumber you," and I thought that was very wise. I was a middle child and hated it. My older sister was firstborn and got tons of attention. My younger brother was the baby and got tons of attention. I was lost in the middle. Each parent was already dealing with a child, so there were no extra arms or laps to sit on for me. As a result, I got in trouble and did bad things to gain their attention. As an adult, I think two children is a perfect number. Four of you is a perfect balance IMO.

Sounds like the parents were the problem in your case and I wouldn’t generalize this.

Don’t worry, most boomers didn’t that’s why we’re all in therapy. I’m sure you’re doing great.

Quality over quantity. Parenting requires a lot of emotional regulation and understanding that if your kid is acting out, the parents probably need to look in the mirror. If you can do this well with three by all means go for it. Most people is day and age can’t.

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Third was easiest transition. Was very hesitant at first but can’t imagine life without all 3 today.

Age gaps please?

My sister has 3, 2nd and 3rd were twins. She said 0 to 1 was still the hardest transition if it helps

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It’s less about number of kids and more about parental capacity. What are currency age gaps? Discourage a 2u2 situation unless one parent isn’t working (with additional household support for a year of 3) or there is a 3rd person in the home helping keep the ship afloat.

This question is asked too often without the right context. Age gap and support matter most.

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