What are your fav sober weekend activities?

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Being able to do things because I’m not hungover or needing to drink. Day or weekend trips out if the city, meetings and going out for long brunches with fellows from AA, cleaning the house and making it the way I want, being invited to things now that I am not a drunk...weddings, kids bdays, house warmings, bbq’s, taking my kids to things because I can afford to know that I am sober, (being able to have kids because I am sober.) My life is as full as I can make it but also balanced to have real rest and take care of my life in a sober way.

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Basically everything normal people do, but without having to be a slave to booze. But also motorcycles, AA meetings, waking up early and working out, or just sleeping in. Whatever’s comfortable

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The easy answer is... whatever I want. Previously my primary weekend activity was waking up with a ripping hangover every Saturday/Sunday and immediately strategizing how I am going to get hair of the dog as quickly as socially possible.

It was fucking gross. I’d make up excuses to my wife that I needed butter to make breakfast so I could buy shooters at the corner store. Or suggest a brunch spot that had booze. Or offer to take the dog on a neighborhood walk. Towards the end, the night before I’d stumble to the corner store to buy some shooters to stash since I had a rule that I didn’t keep a bar in the house... because “I’d be an alcoholic if I did that” 🤦🏽‍♂️🤦‍♀️

I’m pretty lucky that I had a family when I got sober, so that my social life wasn’t totally built around booze activities. It made it way easier to transition to just doing what I was supposed to do but without having to sneak drink. I’ve often pondered if I would have been able to sober up as relatively easily as I did if I would have tried while I was living my pre-family life. It would have required a complete 180 of nearly everything.

So yeah, I’m just grateful for the freedom. Anything else is icing on the cake. Hell, even yard work is a delight. 😂😂😂

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All good. Only you can decide where you are at with your relationship with alcohol.

Anything you do drunk, you can do sober in theory... except drink. Even going to shows, parties or bars... if you can manage to not drink while doing it... it a sober activity. So I guess that relates back to the above comment regarding the relationship with booze. If you can’t be around drinking and not drink... maybe it’s worth looking at. Again, this is in no way trying to say anything about your situation. Only you can answer if it’s worth exploring.

One of the biggest benefits of meetings is that you meet a community of sober people. Just like anything, some of them you’ll click with and start friendships... some of them you won’t. When out in day to day life, it’s pretty easy to feel like you are the only sober person. Personally I’ve kept all my non-sober friends and hang out the same as we did a year ago. I just usually leave once they get past a certain level... which usually happens around 11pm. But I’m older (40) - and that would have been way harder to do when we were 28. They’ve all slowed down a lot even tho they are not sober.

But I also have sober alcoholic friends. They are the ones that keep my sobriety grounded.

I suppose all this kind of ties into the sense of freedom that is mentioned a couple times up above.

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Actually, i have gone to as many bars in the 8 months I’ve been sober than the previous 8 months. Work functions, friends in town, out with the wife. I don’t mind it. I love people and being around people. There does definitely hit a point where I’m ready to go, though.

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Corny or hokey as it sounds, service at mtgs is what I like doing these days.

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Cycling. I’m about to ride 550 miles for charity. Plus, like above, anything I want to do my myself or with my family. I’m up by 7, get a couple hours in on the bike. Cook breakfast for everyone. Then see what I can coax them out to doing: go to the beach, movies etc. now that it’s football season, my old Sunday would go like this: wake up, cram in one or two chores to get the wife off my back, buy a case of beer. Consume it while watching games. Get cranky around 4 pm. Barbecue dinner. Wash dishes. Feel like shit. Pass out. Being free of just that is worth giving up every single dinner wine or meet up cocktail in the world. Because, for me, the two are not separable.

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@EP 1 - so you still go to bars, and clubs, and go out dancing, and partying - but without the drinking? Or you never used to do that? So many times I would go out by myself to have drinks, dance, hopefully get to flirt a little. But sober? Not really interested in sitting at a bar with a seltzer and will not be in the mood to dance, or talk to strangers. That booze helped ease inhibitions.

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OP well, actually yes, but I’m not that young anymore. Not the clubs but I never really liked the clubs. Was more of a garage band, kegger type turned wino. Getting out is important. It takes a bit of internal coaching but I do go to parties and actually have fun. Sometimes a little awkward at first but I find the people who don’t drink much, have good conversation and I’m like wow I missed this, or wow that person isn’t drinking too! they are out there! I am married and my husband also quit, of course that helps but we each have a different story. He is more reluctant and finds parties generally boring and uncomfortable. So we mix it up.But I agree sitting at a bar drinking seltzer is kind of a downer. We had to move on from that. Just felt sad. I think it was sad when we drank too. But walking the dog in the morning, actually getting things done on a weekend is oh so rewarding now.

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Hmmmm. Maybe I’m not an alcoholic? Just binge drinker alcoholic? If i wake up with a hangover after going out partying the night before - i have no desire to drink the rest of the weekend. And don’t. My problem is more that I’m so tired of doing everything by myself - gets boring - that at least going out drinking is fun

Same as when drinking but without the hangover. Now that I’ve gone a year I’m adding a bit more shopping with all the money saved!

@ECD 1 - that’s what i’m talking about - yoy just avoid every single booze related activity. And do more healthy stuff, having a family to be 100% engaged with is key. Now my kids are gone, i’m a single empty nester

Thanks so much for your honesty ❣️

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