I’ve slowly started drinking less and less. And the less I’m drinking the more I realize just how much of my time revolved around alcohol. From going to get it, to drinking it to fighting hangovers. Now I realize I need something to fill all that time with. Especially now that I’m not spending all day saturday and sunday deathly hungover. I go for walks and run errands…but in a shock to me…there’s still a lot of time left. How did you start spending your time once you stopped drinking?

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Well, I was a really bad alcoholic who couldn’t moderate whatsoever. So I went to AA and threw myself full-bore into recovery.

That said, my career then picked up big time. I practiced yoga vigorously. I bought a motorcycle and rode it thousands of miles and learned to work on it. I went out with friends to bars and just didn’t drink. My relationships improved tenfold. I bought cool leather jackets and shit with the money I saved by not drinking. I dated multiple women, until I realized I could still be an asshole when sober, too. So I quit that.

In short, I slowly created a fulfilling life with hobbies and interests and friends and standards. All of the shit I was missing by doing nothing but drinking. And it was all really fulfilling. That was years ago, and it was still the best year of my life.

There’s no bad reason to quit drinking, IMO. The clarity alone is worth it. Good luck!

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I lost my job 90 days into sobriety so I feel ya about having time. I was in a very similar spot: planned my life around drinking and hangovers. Now I ride my bike for hours, work on my house, do AA meetings and generally spend time with friends or doing creative projects. Find something you like or always wanted to do and start working on that. Not sure how long you’ve been reducing but with things just about all open again the world should be your oyster.

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Thank you! Yeah, I definitely need to find some hobbies. I just truly cannot believe how much more I get out of my days, especially the weekend days now that I’m not drinking. Like right now. It’s 830pm on a saturday night. Normally I’d be half blacked out by now with another few hours of drinking still ahead of me. I’m sure you’re all further along than this current realization I’m having so forgive me for repeating myself.

Thanks again for all the encouragement!

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For me I rarely had hobbies because I would end yoga my restlessness while drinking. If I got bored with a hobby, I’d get up and go drink instead of pushing myself to stick with it further. It’s been fun seeing how good I can get at something without the escape of drinking to go to when I get frustrated I’m not learning fast enough etc. I’ve picked up animation

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