What do you do when there’s a pack of high school girls not literally but literally in the staff room gossiping making everyone feel bad and you ask for help and you get laughed at and have to work overtime for nothing cause no one will help 🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️ my superiors say I’m to tender hearted to be manager. But what do I even say without them thinking I’m on a power trip. I don’t care if they like me or not but we have to work together and there’s no respect and respect is a 2 way street. What to do?

like
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at

“Oh good, you aren’t busy! Regina I need you to do X, Gretchen you have Y, Karen you’re on Z. It’s due by _____ so I’ll check in on you in about 2 hours to see if you are making progress or have hit any road blocks. Any questions? Great!” Then walk away for them to complain about you but eventually begrudgingly go do work.
If they don’t then you have reason for disciplinary action that’s more concrete than “no one will help.”

likesmart

Love this!!

like

Be forceful in your ways. Use direct words. Be assertive. Use HR to leverage performance management and exit prep.

You get treated this way because you allow it.

likehelpful

Let them think you’re on a power trip. People always grumble when boundaries are created but it’s the only way forward and things will settle down again once what you will and will not tolerate is established.

like

I know your right but it’s really difficult but I know I have too .

Don't give them a choice. They have too much free time if they have time to gossip so the extra work will fix that. And you may have to fire the head mean girl to get the others to fall in line.

like

Related Posts

Dealing with asshole client who tried to bully me into changing our recommendations, and spineless partner who is back pedaling now given client reaction, despite pre-aligning on our view. People suck

Random question, my boss wants me to become a notary so I can handle notarizing all of the official documents myself. Has anyone else been asked to do this for their employer? Is it ethical?

like

Re naming names. Lots of people in media & publications are naming & shaming, and calling out workplace environments toxic for people of color. I went through some shit at my prior workplace and after a lot of reflection it’s become clear to me it was race based. I’m working through what actions I can take to address this - any thoughts?

likeuplifting

Have you ever snoop through your partner’s phone without them knowing? If so, did you find anything shocking?!

like

This is why I secretly avoid 1:1s with my manager!

Post Photo
likefunny

Employee prefers to resign instead of discussing his/her aspirations. What should be the approach to put your expectations with your Supervisor so that you can continue your association happily rather looking out without even trying within?

like

A director in another unit wants to meet me to “continue a conversation we started last year”. He is referring to the time I had asked him if there were openings on his team. That was over a year ago. I am not too happy where I am right now ( I stayed where I was). I also don’t know if he really has an opportunity or if this is just some corporate circle jerk where my current director is trying to “smoke me out”. I don’t speak poorly of my team/work. How would you approach this conversation?

like

Have you ever been accused of mansplaining? What is it?

like

Let’s talk about wrongful termination. The other day I was fired in the middle of the day without any warning. My colleagues called me because they were confused on why the Talent Manager dismissed me from the chat. I didn’t know what they were referring to. So I called my PM to ask what was happening, and she said that she just got off the phone with the TM and said they were terminating my contract on the spot due to me speaking up about micromanaging. No explanation just kicked out. Advice?

like

I have a wee crush on one of the partners in my firm and I thought he liked me too, but neither of us did anything about it (which is entirely appropriate). That was all pre-Rona. Now I’m leaving the firm and pursuing another opportunity and staying in the same city. Since he’ll no longer be my boss, is there a way to find out if my feeling was correct? How should I go about this? (Especially given Rona?)

like

Another salesman told a client their ad campaign would be ready next week. Today our supervisor told me to help him, but he has hardly even started the work. Is there any way for me to point this out without feeling like a jerk

like

If an employee files a complaint about workplace behavior, do you treat them differently? I'm faced with reporting an SM for bullying and finding it near imposible to believe that it won't (cont'd)

Honestly don’t know how I leave these guys every morning.

Post Photo
like

Could someone please suggest how to handle this situation?
My manager (Technology Director) sees me as an emerging thread to his position and stopped sharing details / trying to avoid including me in visible projects etc.,
FYI - His manager is the division head and Managing Director.
Why I think my manager tries to move me out?
- I am 18 YOE with a technically strong background
- Upper mgmt is starting to identify me as the backup for all systems. My manager tries to move me out since then

likehelpful

My relationship with manager has deteriorated over the last few months. Could this be a reason they could fire/let me go? I am a good performer overall.

like

I’ll be asking my last job for a letter of recommendation but I’m not sure who to ask. My boss, who is lovely and would write an amazing LOR. Or my boss's boss who would put minimal effort in but it would have more weight.

like

To what degree do you share your mental health issues with your team? I went through a period of depression and recently got comments back that I need to fix my attitude. Is it worth mentioning now?

like

How do you explain to a interviewer that you are leaving your job because your new boss doesn't treat you well/fairly?

like

what should I wear back to office?

Resigned last week from a job with a horrible manager. In the process learned that the other team member is toxic and poisoning my reputation in front of others behind my back. I am so relieved!

likesmart

More Posts

I have 9.5 yrs of experience and am currently level 62 in Microsoft. I feel I should be Senior SE in Microsoft (level 63) but when I got microsoft offer last year the HR said it is the maximum they can give. Fixed base is 28 LPA. There is an upcoming appraisal cycle in September, so I wanted to ask how much can I expect Microsoft to adjust the base salary in this appraisal cycle ( given my performance was decent) ?

like

Hi I’m a ACD/AD looking for a FT gig, and wanted to see if there are any similar level CWs looking to team up. DM me if you’re interested and would love to chat more! Also, I’m pretty open city wise.

like

Anyone have hospitality brand/culture marketing connections in Chicago?

like
like

Hi Fishes,
I have 1.8 yrs Exp and working in the Big data domain and have a few offers please help to decide on the comparatively better option based on salary, Work-life Balance, security, and Carrer Growth.

EY GDS: CTC 12 ( 11.20 Fixed )
Publicis Sapient: 16 CTC ( 14.5 LPA FIXED )
Neudesic (IBM) 16 CTC ( 14.5 FIXED + WFH Remote Complete )
PubMatic: 22.70 CTC + 2 lakhs Joining Bonus ( 16 fixed LPA + Other benifits, stocks, etc )

It will be very helpful if you can suggest with some reason.

like

I was interviewed for Amdocs through flocareer. The interview was good and I am expecting I will be selected for the next round, but it's been a week , haven't heard since then.
Any views on how much time does it take for them to get back ?

Are we seeing another repeat of Ellen’s downfall with James Corden? Seems information about his questionable behavior keeps coming out.

like

Hi fishes,
I was wondering if I put down my resignation now. And in case after a few weeks I decide to stay back, can I withdraw my resignation?

I got more in AIP than Trump paid in taxes 😂😂

likefunny

Got offer where I revive steffon diggs and I trade away Darrell Henderson, and Van Jefferson… what should I do? PPR 12 team league

Post Photo
like

Fiancé’s milestone birthday coming up. We both love experiences and enjoy the city. Welcome all the help to make it special for her!

like

Are any top consulting firms hiring for experienced analysts currently? I know ACN and some others are cyclical for resources 2-3 years out of college, but I’m looking to make a move sooner than fall

like

I’m sitting in a partner’s office on a Saturday night realizing this will never be mine. I’ll never have people sitting in my office saying I’m this person. Feels like I just topped out on life. Down.

Anyone want to grab a drink tn?

like

Had to throw in the tahoe & wine country 🙄 douche

Post Photo
funnylike

90% of problems in the legal field would be solved if everyone set internal deadlines 2 days before the actual deadline 😭

like

In BGC Verification i was supposed to upload 8 documents, but after the last page i was not able to submit , the submit button was not working.Now i am not able to login again.it was one time access given
2 documents are still pending.Will there be any problem or will they sent another link later ?
@KPMG

like

EY -TAS , S&O . We are hiring. If interested, reach out...

likehelpfulfunny

Any insight into Fenwick’s tech trans practice? Are they still hiring fully remote associates?

like

Has anyone ever dropped the coin for a paddock pass? Thinking about treating my old man for his 70th birthday at the 2022 Canadian GP. Worth it? Any tips along the purchase journey?

like

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the
Fishbowl app

See what’s happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

A phone with Fishbowl app

Scan your QR code to download
Fishbowl app on your mobile

Download app

Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy

Already have an account? Log in

Sign up for free to continue using Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use(New) and Privacy Policy(New)
Messaging rates may apply

Already have an account? Log in

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal