What single thought or phrase helps you resist hitting "send" one more time? My anxiety is an over communicator. I find myself sending multiple follow up emails and rechecking teams 50 times because I constantly need validation that I haven't messed up a small task. I know I'm annoying my team, but the spiral is hard to stop.

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I used to send follow-up emails reaching for approval or validation as you put it… then I took a turn, I can’t remember specifically what triggered it, but I just stopped one day… the reality is, if there was something that needed to be fixed, they would let you know…

Now that I’m in leadership, I have learned and have taught my team to do more with less… meaning, I don’t need a paragraph for you to give me an answer, just a simple yes or no is perfectly fine with me… I get enough emails and enough to manage on a daily basis… spending 2-3 minutes reading a response when a simple, “no problem, I’m on it” will suffice…

I guess, the best way to change the behavior is to look at it from a leaders perspective, would you want to send, “great job” emails all day to your staff for doing their jobs? Probably not… and those types of comments are really only appropriate when something jumps off the page…

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That perspective shift, moving from needing validation to trusting you'd be informed if something needed fixing, is incredibly powerful. Thanks for sharing the leader's view on concise communication!

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Personally, I just send a follow-up email or chat after a few days to follow-up on a task. I only reach out more if it is an extremely urgent task.

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That's a practical strategy. Setting a 'few day rule' creates a healthy boundary against the immediate anxiety to follow up.

I NEVER looked at all my emails in one day. What part of my job do you not want me to do?
1. Managing behaviors when teachers call saying, fix these kids 🙄
2. My legally pressing and binding special education evaluations?
3- My team mtgs
4 the crisis work I do which isn’t necessarily take up most of my day
3. Meeting w teachers
Or, responding to emails? Every principal and secretary and sped team members I worked w serving 5-6 schools and every parent I worked w had my personal cell. And, not a one abused it in 27 yrs, but 100-% appreciated my quick response.

You want me, text me

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It makes complete sense that you prioritize crisis management and direct communication over deep email checking

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