The voice of an outlook email notification gives me anxiety. Does anyone else feel this way or know how i can calm myself? This is a new feeling

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Turn them off? I did that years ago.

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I changed it to something nice, it helps.

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I’m sorry you’re experiencing this. I’ve struggled with the same thing, having a visceral response every time I heard it. I kept changing the tone but after a few days it wouldn’t feel any different so I eventually had to turn it off. I obsessively check my phone anyway when I’m away from my computer. But this is only one small way to try to temporarily cope with my work related anxiety. At the end of the day, the toxic situation causing that reaction hasn’t changed. I’m looking for a new job right now.

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I had something similar with me ex-wifes text notification sound - heard that beep every 5min for a year straight, always chatting with her new group of friends she had no interest in me getting to know. It left a very intense negative association. Even now if I hear another iphone with the same notification sound go off it brings up anxiety. Years ago I had a similar negative association with thunderstorms - I worked on boats and always has to be worried about the weather, my anxiety spiked for nearly 10yrs afterwards every time I drove in heavy rain. So in general these negative associations can be common and long lasting. For your case I'd try switching the sound - if the email trauma is in the past, a different sound may not have the negative association, and maybe the different sound won't make it quite as painful even if the email trauma is still in effect. Good luck!

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Can you do this with Slack? Equal anxiety haha

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I'll be on a call just watching slack light up, anxiety build knowing I have 2m until the next call and 20+ slack posts across multiple channels and DMs to pick through. Slack has got to be the most impossible tool to keep up with, messages sadly go there to die a silent death many days for me

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For context- it is a toxic partner’s rude emails that have created this behavior, and mostly the do it “asap” content of the emails..

I have that plus everytime phone rings 🙁

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