Would you pursue someone who, from time to time will say they “don’t feel like it” and then completely shuts you down? Quick run down- I’m talking to this guy (desi) and we hit it off. He blames his attitude on the past and mental issues. I think I need to dodge this bullet but another part of me really likes the “nice side”. Tried to have a convo to set expectations but he turns the table and accuses me of bringing baggage/drama. I know guys play this game but can’t we be adults here?!?

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Been in this situation but I was the troublemaker.
Deep down its just a mixture of insecurity and the feeling of entitlement which leads to a narcissistic personality. He is certainly thinking about trivial things and making them huge in his mind adding up unnecessary stress, venting frustration without much control.
I realised this sooner that how it was destroying my relation and opened up to SO about it. She has a very calm personality and helped me get through it.
My suggestion would be to get him talking. Our way was to spend weekends without technology and during those days there were many instances when we fell asleep talking on bed.(those days!)
I would also advise you to analyse your situation properly and be ready for taking drastic steps if need be. Afterall it's your life and you have to decide if hapiness he brings is worth it or not.

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F here and been through something similar. DM me if you would like to talk about it.

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