I’ve only slept with one person, my wife. I have not openly shared this with anyone because there’s a stigma that I “settled” or I don’t have numbers on the board like a man should. I’m not overly religious, so that was never a driver in the equation. I admit, I do think about the “what if” every once in awhile but I’m honestly getting to the age where I feel I’m beyond my prime anyhow.

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As long as you are happy , nothing else should matter

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So I am casually seeing a guy (I guess that's how to describe it-I don't really know) who is in the process of a divorce and the only woman he's been with prior to me was his wife. I have absolutely no issue with it. It doesn't matter to me. I don't believe he settled or that there's some sort of magic number he should have just because he's a guy. People who think that way or judge people in that manner sound kind of like jerks.

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What kind of responses you lookin for OP? Sounds like fomo. If she makes you happy this really shouldnt matter.

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For perspective... I’m about as far on the other side of this as possible. Former College and Professional athlete. Slept with more than I can count. 100+ and the shame I feel is overwhelming sometimes. Especially now being a Father.

It as an absolute rouse thinking to think we as Men are “supposed” to put notches in our belt. I find what you’ve done to be admirable and of tremendous value. I promise you you’re not missing out on anything.

If you ever want to have a private chat about this feel free to PM me.

Keep this rolling King.

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As a man, I actually find this extremely admirable and the older I get, the more I wish I would have done just what you did. Societal standards and expectations of men be damned.

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I have had many partners as a female and honestly it’s overrated. I have been with my wife now for over 5 years and never been happier. FOMO is normal but don’t assume you are missing out.

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Get some side action?

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Stop cheating on your wife M1

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I’ve only been with my husband but the man is skilled and we’re very happy together. For me, it feels icky to think about ever being with someone else. He had been with others before me but I kind of wish we had been each other’s first.

I definitely wouldn’t think less of anyone for not having a long list of past partners. It does sound like you’re overthinking.

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Me and my boo are in the same situation. We are each other’s firsts, going on seven years together. Feeling FOMO is definitely okay for us, and every now and then we casually talk about being in an open relationship - we’re not getting younger, right? 😌

We don’t want to risk what we have, so we’ve been told by other couples who’ve done this to make sure we lay out very clear rules if we ever considered an open relationship. If no consensus, then we’ll just get old together, happily ever after. Our hearts can’t say we didn’t give it a shot 😘

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Insecurity is a feeling and feelings are for feeling. Recognize and accept the feeling, then get on with living. You have responsibilities to take care of - that’s what a man should do.

I’ve been with many people and I wish I hadn’t for whatever that’s worth. Movies glamorize it but you a lot of times end up feeling less fulfilled.

Unless your asking if sex is better with some people rather than others. The answer is yes obviously. It’s good mix of skill and attraction.

If you were born and brought up in Asian culture, esp Indian, what you did was perfectly normal. Not sure if you are Indian.

If you’re happy with you marriage, you haven’t missed a thing. Between you and your wife, you probably have numbers too big for the “board” to handle. Stay where the grass is green. You sound like a lucky dude. Flowers to you, both.

Don’t worry, your wife is thinking the exact same thing 😆

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