Women in Law

(I had/have severe PPD)
I was pretty confident in going back to work full-time after maternity leave. I knew I couldn't be a stay at home mom. But now that we are almost at 11m, I am really wanting to ju… more

I am starting a 6 week trial as second chair in 3 weeks and will be ~14 weeks pregnant when it starts. Does anyone have recommendations for where to get maternity court attire?

I’ve posted before about being put on a PIP, and I’m still on it, (feedback I received centered on responsiveness, quality control on my work product, and moving my cases forward) , but I wanted to sh… more

Ladies - what kind of review would you leave for a nice resort in which there was a major issue that the hotel eventually resolved, but not without significant complaining/escalation?

I’m sure this has been asked before but if I get married and legally change my name do I have to change it with the state bar? Boyfriend and I are discussing taking the next step and the topic of name… more

How do I stop being a perfectionist? I recently started at a new firm and am getting my feet under me. I had a client go around me to my boss because they did not like my opinion. My new boss did not … more

Women who made partner at v10 firms-what is your life like? Do you have kids, and if so how do you find time for them? How do you and your husband split the load at home? I think partnership is what I… more

I’m looking for a nanny in Chicago. Any tips are where to find one?

Are there big law firms that automatically put a mother returning to work to a reduced work schedule for a while? I had heard Latham does this and is open to extending this schedule until the kid is i… more

I’m 33 and recently single. Finding it so hard to date with my work schedule. How did you all find the time to dedicate to dating? Has anyone used a matchmaker?

Anyone who had PPD come out alive? But in all seriousness, I am 10m pp and the PPD has been hitting really hard lately. Just looking for some reassurances that it will be OK.

I'm a mid-level transactional associate who recently accepted a lateral offer in BigLaw. The conflicts check has been going on for nearly a month now, and the firm keeps giving me vague responses … more

Any advice or tips for 2 working lawyer parents w/ young kids (3yo and 9mos)? We both have demanding jobs. I feel like I’m underperforming in all aspects of my life. My husband tries to help but he’s … more

Recommendations for a non-blazer jacket for a casual small county courthouse? As a public attoney I’m in court everyday and I’m tired of blazers. J Crew lady jacket or the like ? Im 34, F, petite.

Hi All! How long do you have to be employed at your firm before being eligible for maternity benefits? Wanted to see if there is some ‘market practice’, especially in BigLaw. I’m 11 weeks pregnant and… more

Are you guys scared/ nervous these days? I have anxiety, so I can’t always trust my feelings, but I feel like I’ve been carrying a weight these past few months.

Ladies, I need some basic life advice from other attorneys! How many days maximum would you be willing to host a close friend (someone who would be in your bridal party) at your place?

Should I include the fact I’m covering for a colleague on paternity leave in my request for additional compensation? I won’t be taking a maternity leave and it’s a lot of extra work on top of my workl… more

Do you have any yoga mat recommendations for prenatal yoga and using the mat with a yoga ball?

Anyone in biglaw make a lateral move in their third trimester? I’m 20 weeks now, but since my first round interview is tomorrow, I’m assuming the process would take a while. Feels weird to leave the… more

I had 18 weeks maternity leave and have 8 weeks left. I know I still have quite a bit of time, but I am already feeling a little anxious at the idea of going back to work and leaving my baby at home. … more

For a first time mom, is 6 months maternity too long? Our firm offers 4 months paid and then was planning to use STD for the remainder. Due end of June, so was planning to return right at the new year… more

When people say “document everything” in workplace sexual harassment situations, what do they mean and is there a proper way to maintain these records?

Would you lateral from an AM100 to a AM50 as a senior associate while also trying to get pregnant? Is there any hope that partnership is possible?

Is it unprofessional to not wear makeup? I have a hard time getting up in the morning so I tend not to.

I lateraled to my current form as a second year and 6 months after that I went on maternity leave. I came back to work in February 2025. In September I had my end of year review, which was sort of mix… more

Has anyone received accommodation for going through IVF (like working remotely, etc.)? Would love to hear about your experience. Im nervous to start IVF soon.

Pumping moms - do you pump in your office or the nursing/mothers room? My office locks so I could pump there, but the nursing room has a sink so that’s my preference. The issue is other people (assist… more

Trial packing question: I have a short bench trial coming up. We will be prepping witnesses in the evenings after trial. Should I prepare to wear my suit for those preps, or do people like to get comf… more

family law solicitor recommendations in London? I’m looking to get a prenup in place. SO and I are both international so want to get ahead of jurisdictional issues.

Defense counsel. Will be trying a case at ~32 weeks pregnant. Two questions.

1. Where am I getting suits?
2. How does pregnant lawyer play with the jury?

Those of you who work with weird men, what are you wearing to work?

I started at a new firm and work with a counsel who makes me uncomfortable. Nothing egregious, just a few comments here or there, but I want to avoid the at… more

Im pregnant with my first (~14 weeks)! I’m based in DC (glover park) and my out of state family has been saying I need to get day care sorted now. I was wondering if there were any DC based attorneys … more

Where does everyone buy work clothes? I’m 4 months postpartum and everything I currently own makes me cry so I need a shopping spree.

I’m not happy at my current firm. I have a few interviews lined up in the next week or two. I’m not worried about landing a position. I have good work experience and am a solid interviewer. I’m just a… more

Anyone breastfeed (not pump) while working from home? How do you manage? Going back to work in a couple of weeks and can't imagine how I'll get any work done. Baby is constantly feeding and wa… more

How do you hit 2000 hours with kids?