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Fourth-year associate. I will soon be commuting to Midtown Manhattan to a firm that pays market. From a financial perspective, am I completely nuts to be driving in and parking? Between tolls and park… more

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Today is my first day back at work (and first full day back in my physical office) after a few weeks off for parental leave. Needless to say, I am struggling to stay focused on anything other than wan… more

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Insurance Defense Associate new to group. Just finished first year on the defense side after 6 years on the Plaintiff side, joined 3 weeks before lockdown. WFH with 6 and 2 year old. While billing … more

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What % of net income do folks spend on private school tuition for their child(ren), if any? My oldest will be starting kindergarten in the fall and her sibling in 2 years. Cost to send both will be ap… more

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Dyslexia! After having our kindergartener son tested (privately) related to ADHD, we were told he may have dyslexia too (which would explain why he struggles so much with phonics but is amazing at sig… more

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My spouse has made it clear to me that they no longer support me working in biglaw and want me to find a job with more reasonable hours. They were supportive early in my career and when we had one chi… more

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My wife often calls me by 5:45/6 to ask where I am if I’m not headed home yet. Sometimes she’s stressed with kids/dogs/dinner and really wants me home. This really throws off my concentration because … more

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My wife and I are planning on having kids soon. I’m building a new practice at a new firm. Any advice on juggling both and setting up boundaries? Do I take a week/weeks off when baby is born and just … more

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NDAs for Nannies? I was wondering how everyone who is doing some work from home during covid handles in-house caregivers? Obviously we all take all steps to protect confidential information and real… more

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I just attended a virtual back to school night. The teachers were clearly uncomfortable with technology (i.e. zoom), admitted that they had only used Google classroom for the last eight days (at most)… more

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I just wanted to take a quick moment to say that you are all doing a great job with this ridiculous, unprecedented juggling act of trying to be a parent, teacher, lawyer and human. Hang in there!

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My wife and I are both terrible housekeepers and our clutter is overwhelming us. We have two kids under 3 and a wonderful nanny but we need more help at home. How do we throw money at this problem? Wh… more

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Where would you begin w/ setting up your own solo practice? I am a military veteran and in need of some serious help (w/ starting a business that is). It is a long story, of which I might reveal more … more

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Have been hunting desperately for childcare bc spouse and I are both FT lawyers trying to handle 4 immunocompromised elementary age kids at home but have been striking out. Have even been considering … more

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I’m a 30 year old insurance litigation defense attorney pregnant for the first time. Feeling like my career is over since my entire worth appears to be dependent on my billing. Words of advice?

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How are people managing WFH with their kids? We have a 2 year old and 5 year old and my partner is also wfh. Small condo, no nanny. It’s freaking insane and my husband and I are fighting every day....

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I was planning on trying to start a family this month, but I just landed an associate position at a prestigious firm I’ve wanted for years. I don’t want to postpone having kids - (cont below)

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For those who are married to a working professional and have young children, what do you do to keep your marriage strong? (Cont below)

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(Especially those of you with young children) how do you make time to exercise/be active?

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Anybody get divorced as a young-ish associate with little kids? I think I'm on that path and really struggling

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Should I stay or should I go? Hoping to get some insight from those that went before me. I am a 6th year call working at a top20 firm in private M&A. Two kids and am in the position (continued bel… more

How many Big Law partners sacrificed their marriage to become partner, and, if you didn’t, how did you pull it off. Almost every partner I have ever worked for has been divorced at least once....

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I work as of counsel at a small firm directly with 1 other attorney. I have worked w/ the other attorney for the last 10 years. How much paid maternity leave is reasonable to request?

Biglaw single parents? I’m a recently single parent. My ex is (almost) completely out of the picture now. Any other biglaw single parents with tips or tricks to making this work on my own?

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Biglaw parents, where do you choose to live and why? Somewhere close to work to avoid commute and spend more time with kids? Suburbs?

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I’m having trouble transitioning from work to home. What do you guys do to get yourself in the “home” mind so you can be fully present for your kids? What are your transition routines?

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Does anyone manage without having a nanny? Kids age 0-10

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Graduated law school, passed the bar, and started my job last summer. My wife and I got pregnant with our first sooner than we expected, and we're due in June. Any general tips/advice?

Brand new (like, just-had-a-kid new) mom here. Life seems manageable with the baby sleeping much of the time. It gets worse from here doesn’t it? I’m scared 😱😱😱

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How do you deal with the stress of knowing that other people on your team are working weekends and you aren’t? I’m a mom with two kids so working in weekends is tough for me. Cont. in comments:

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Some people mentioned au pairs... tell me more! Why did you like/not like it, if you did the au pair thing?

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What are we supposed to do with our kids during Winter break when school is closed for TWO WEEKS and we need to hit our billables?

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Last night my 9yo said, “wow mom, Idina Menzel is 48 but she looks way younger than you!” (I am 38.) Then I put makeup on this morning and she said, “well, you look nice but you still look worn out...

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looking to start a family. Prob 1-2 kids in the next 5 years - should I wait till I leave big law? I'm nervous about what time is crucial to be around the newborns. Adoption if relevant. Any advic… more

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Is anyone else worried about screen time or strict about it? I'm a bit torn about it and curious of everyone else's thoughts.

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For parents with school-age kiddos (kindergarten up), what do you do for childcare? Thinking about giving up our nanny, but worried about juggling days off, sick days, and summer break.

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