Currently 7.5 months pregnant at a BigLaw firm that offers 5 months paid leave with additional ramp up/down periods. I am so glad I have that option but also terrified of actually taking it. I am not so much concerned about future career advancement but about maintaining work and getting back into the work rotation/having enough work when I return. Any advice or personal experience would be greatly appreciated!

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The day you have the baby, this will be the last thing on your mind. Don’t worry about it, there will always be work and you’ll figure it out.

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Nobody on their death bed ever wished they had spent more time at the office. Routinely, people lament NOT spending enough time with their family.

Being an attorney, you helps lots of people every day. The single most important contribution you can make to this Earth is raising your children. It is more important than 99% of the legal cases out there. Enjoy parenthood ~~

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Enjoy it stay out of work and enjoy every minute.

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What firm I want to work there!

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Just take it. I’m going on paternity leave for the max my firm allows (10 weeks) and would take more if they offered it. There’s a lot of firms out there and a lot of time for work - I’m only gonna have this opportunity to spend time with my kid like this once.

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Chill out. Having a child will change your life. It doesn't happen for everyone, but I've had several female friends who completely changed their approach to their career once their first baby was born. One said to me that once they handed her her baby, she knew that's all she wanted.

You figure out what is truly important in life. Others just got back to the grind, and that worked for them.

Go, enjoy your time with your baby. Work will be there when you come back.

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I’m about 7 months pregnant and am taking my full 6 months. Everyone at my firm has been supportive and told me that there will be plenty of work when I’m back.

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Take it all. Every day.

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Your concern will be no different if you take 5 months vs 3. They will cover your absence quite easily. It’s actually easier at big firms bc there are so many bodies to go around. Take every minute they offer you!

Take it. If the firm penalizes you change firms

Take max and enjoy it. Everyone I know that didn't regrets it.

I think it will depend on the partners you work with…I had one who had a long list of tasks for me the day I came back to work with my first child and the work load gradually came back (was also a weird time because it was at the height of covid lockdown). For my second, I was able to schedule an arbitration hearing in such a way that it took up all of my time when I came back. In addition to that, I sent out reminder emails that I was back to the people I worked with the most just letting them know that I was available. The people who like to work with you won’t forget about you and will find a way to work you back in, in my experience. I understand how you feel but agree with everyone else that you should enjoy every second of those 5 months…it goes by so fast

Take it. Once you are out, no one will track how much time you’re actually taking or remember later on that you worked an extra month or two. Use the time to take care of yourself and spend with your family, the newborn phase is hard and also goes by so fast. You will never get that time back.

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