Them: I can’t even take care of myself, idk how you’re doing all this with kids…

Me: (internally rolling my eyes) I just do it.

Married to a crazy rich girlfriend and it's the worst experience of my life. She can afford anything, flying first class everywhere, wears all branded stuff and she doesnt have to work for life. I am working very hard to provide for family and I am still not able to add any value to her life and she's been distancing herself. We havent had any meaningful interaction in the past 1 year too, been sleeping separately, no touch/kiss/sex or anything like that. We might be divorcing soon...

My boyfriend just found my vibe...

How do you know if you have outgrown someone? Known my boyfriend for 2 years but have dated seriously only for 6 months. Confused as why i’m feeling this way.

Any girls looking to make new friends? I’ve been here for 3 years and want to meet some more people, friend group is a bit exhausting at this point

why do i struggle when my s/o isn’t texting me? ik they’re not cheating on me, ik they still love me, all that jazz.

but for some reason i’m not at peace when they take some time to themselves.

any tips or advice?

Why do some muslim men think that career women in their 30s become desperate and will significantly lower their standards? Someone with 3 kids that’s been divorced twice and isn’t even practicing just told my friend he’ll do her the favor of giving her children. The arrogance is mind boggling

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28, still haven't moved out of parents' home. Anyone else in similar situation?

Just a heads up- Jewish New Years starts tomorrow night, Yom Kippur is next week followed by sukkot. This period of time can be very stressful for Jewish colleagues who are trying to balance work, family and religion. Please be conscience of their schedule. Their schedule might inconvenience your team but they are sacrificing a lot too…

Question: Girl friends parents finally came over for a ristha. Everything went great or so I thought but now she wants to time to think about moving forward. The pain point she brought up is that we are in different states and she is feeling pressed. Although in that time she has started communicating less and I literally had to beg her to get on face time. My gut says she wants to end it but unsure. Any advice ? It's been 2 weeks since this event

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Trying to set family expectations and would love thoughts on 2 things. 1. How long after baby will I be ready for visitors beyond our parents? I’m thinking a few weeks. 2. Our 3 grandmothers are 1-3 hour flights away (3 diff places) and cannot travel. When will we be ready to take baby to see them? I’m thinking 4-6 months but that would also be flu/RSV season. Can’t predict the future but family is already talking about trips and I want to set expectations and do what is best for baby. TIA!!

How to get over a girl who’s still always on your mind? Dated for 4 years, broke up beginning of July. One of those situations where you really think it’s “the one”. She has seemingly moved on pretty easily, which just hurts even more. I keep replaying scenarios in my head and wonder if there’s a chance at a future with us together again. 😔

My brother-in-law (age 30) told us recently that he is transgender. How can we support him? (‘Him’ as we haven’t discussed pronouns yet). It was a surprise to us!

Stopped a fwb situation. But staying away is so hard. 😔

Random: is anyone in the same mindset as me that everything has a black or white answer and grey is just created by people that don’t want to make tough decisions? It’s a debate I have going on with my wife and some other outside parties.

Is bfs account Contract get extended or they simply release and we get bach to parent (cts), for another project is complete bgv happening or they just handle from their side?

I broke up with my EX mainly because the relationship with my child and her was not the best, it sucks but I have to look out for my child, So far I am able to do the things I can do now. It is not the I am not Hoeing around but the simply fact that I can hang out with friends and go watch my son play baseball is a great feeling now. I feel at peace now, in somewhat of pain because of the breakup but I am at peace now.

How do you manage a long distance relationship? I got engaged 3 months ago and my fiancé and I live in different cities. I just can’t stop thinking about her and feel horrible there on.

It's time now I guess. Going back to India permanently. Came to Canada for my MBA but couldn't get a job. I have prior IB exp and CFA & CPA. Did a free PE internship for 5 months. Stay safe !

Anybody know the starting salary for a second year associate at Gray Robinson in Florida (not Miami if that makes a difference)? Thinking of a lateral in and want to know what I’d be working with. Bonus structure? Minimum billable req.? Bueller?

Any Dallas firms looking for junior litigation associates right now?

Hi Fishes!

I'm a fresher, placed at EY as a business consulting risk analyst. I will be joining by the end of this month
Would love to hear your experiences, advice, tips and things I can do to be well prepared.

Excited to be a part of this group.
Cheers
Tx

How is the WLB and travel requirements in EY-Parthenon India(Senior Associate in Strategy and Transactions)?

I recently joined EY GDS. May I know what will be the in-hand salary if the fixed salary is 12.5 LPA?

Is HSBC or Credit Suisse or for matter of fact, any account in EY is asking EY employees to work from office or to work in hybrid manner. Any account in EY which offers permanent WFH?

Just wanted to shout out you guys and this app for helping to guide people whether that's salaries, tips, referrals, etc. Helped give me direction on my next step. Looking forward to starting in Saas after the new year. You guys rock

Also, if you have any books, podcasts, youtube, etc. I could learn from in the few weeks that would be great.

Any good bottomless brunch recommendations in manhattan?

Is 628 actually the area code for SF? Or people don’t know it and won’t answer a phone number that starts with this area code?

I have $20k in savings, I owe $6,000 to my 401k loan, that’s the only loan I got. I am debt free otherwise except for my house. Should I use my savings to pay off? Since people are talking about unemployment and being fired, I wanted to make sure I have enough, 👩🏾‍💻... What should I do? I initially took the loan to add to my home equity when I sell my house for a new house then covid hit.

Is it standard to negotiate pay with corporate internships?

If you had to guess when oncycle will be, what would you say? I’ve heard funds were disappointed by participation rates and quality last time, so I’m curious to see if they can show enough discipline to wait this year.

Hi All,

Anyone who got retained recently in LTI, please let me know, need some help.

What is everyone’s goal for 2020?

I want to do enough pull ups that I would reach the equivalent height of the stratosphere (60-70k reps)

First year associate, female, 30 years old, no debt. Would you shift careers to become a diplomat?

Hi,

I got 2 offers one from HCL and another from LTIMindtree. I want to join HCL but they are yet to release offer letter but has given confirmation over mail.

For LTIMindtree I have received the offer letter and yet to accept the same, but they are soon staring background verification for onboarding as soon as I accept the offer letter.

In this case what to do pls suggest.

IQVIA - 33.5 lacs Fixed, 1.5 lacs Joining Bonus, 4.8 lacs Variable
CGI - 34 Lacs Fixed, 1.12 Lacs worth Stock options, 2Lacs Joining Bonus(will be deployed to work for Shell Client)
Siemens Healthineers - Awaiting offer, not willing to match above offers, maximum they can offer 33L as fixed and 2 Lacs Joining Bonus.

which one to choose?

YOE - 13 Years Skill Set: Agile, Scrum

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