We have a house cleaner, and a son in daycare from 7am to 4:30pm. Order groceries when we’re busy and order too much takeout as it is. We have another kid on the way and a nanny for them both or both of them in a good daycare will be as much as our mortgage BUT I feel like we’re so busy we’re drowning. What else can I outsource (that’s not…another mortgage)? I know outsourcing is the solution, I’m just stuck as to where to look next.

I only have Reg left. I failed it once before. For those who have passed Reg what were some of things you focused on? Also if you have any study tips I would really appreciate it, tax has never come naturally to me.

My wife often calls me by 5:45/6 to ask where I am if I’m not headed home yet. Sometimes she’s stressed with kids/dogs/dinner and really wants me home. This really throws off my concentration because it makes me feel rushed. Like many practices sometimes I’m out at 5:30, other times it’s much later. Just depends and is unpredictable. Any advice on how to approach this?

How do you renegotiate your commission rate on TD Ameritrade and it’s platform ThinkOrSwim? Is this requested online or do you have to call in? Does it have a decent success rate? Im at the original .65.

Hi Friends,

Could some recommend some good pgs around fidelity investments (manyata tech park). I will be starting the office from Dec.

Currently I pay $1900 for a brand new & modern 1BHK in the Greater NYC area. Moving to SF later this year. Any recommendations on how much to budget for SF? Will be working in Downtown area & currently got a car. I am little bit divided on whether to sell the car or move it to SF.

Looking for a good neighbourhood and ok with 30 minute commute to work.

Why is Deloitte’s 401k match do anemic?

This job is not for women with kids unless you go on some sort of reduced schedule or stay up super late most nights after the kids are asleep. This is so impossible!! 😖 just needed to vent somewhere

How to overcome a breakup. I'm heartbroken 😭

What do we think is going to happen with student loan deferral? Any recent new grads thinking they’re going to pay back any time soon? Some argue Biden is going to keep pushing interest pause til next election then forgive 10k as a strategy to help get re-elected? I only have 15k to pay and can pay it anytime, but no incentive to when that money can be earning more elsewhere in the meantime, thoughts on what is really going to happen?

Hi guys,

I got my full and final settlement today but I can see no tax deduction. Does anyone know the reason. 4k tax used to be deducted every month till now. I also got gratuity and leave encashment along

I’m keep getting flashbacks from my previous relationship. I want to report him for domestic abuse/date rape charges but I don’t know if it’s a wise idea esp after a whole yr

First-year teacher looking for some back to school advice/tips. Meet the teacher night is tomorrow. What are some things you do the first week for your littles?

How is everybody doing with the lockdown? Dealing with the stress of an ongoing divorce and loneliness is driving me nuts

I felt like a walking zombie during thanksgiving, barely eating and barely talking. My family is small and I told them ahead of time my relationship ended. I focused on my niece and nephews, cried when I wanted to and slept from 8pm-noon for the last 5 days. Showered once or twice. That’s the best I could do and that’s OK right now. I’m back in my apartment, just trying to take it one day at a time, and not re read his texts too much. My birthday is Thursday 🙄

Newbie Tax filing question, worked for a US employer Jan - July in NJ and then moved and worked for a Canadian employer Sept - Dec. Work permit holder in both countries at the time. What's the best way to file taxes in both countries? Has anyone done this before? Looking for guidance, gotchas, tax filing recommendations...

During the pandemic I dove into my self care (found a therapist, learned I was having seizures and got on meds for that). My journey has been difficult and not pretty to watch. Somewhere along the line I feel like my fiancé saw too much. I no longer feel like romantic parters and instead feel like we have a “caretaker/patient” type relationship. I don’t feel sexy or attractive anymore. I talked to him about this and he feels bad. But I feel guilty for bringing it up. Anyone else had this issue?

A friend of mine was arrested last night over a DUI charge and his family is worried sick. How can I help comfort them...

Biglaw first year associates, what’s your favorite thing about your job (beside the paychecks)?

it feels like every survey about working from home is (poorly) designed to answer the useless question "would you rather work from home or from the office." I submit that the set of people who prefers to have only one of those two options, always and forever, is the null set. which means it DOES NOT MATTER because the correct answer is always going to be "make both possible." you're welcome, HR departments everywhere.

What do people think about Yale Law pulling out of US News rankings? Is YLS on the decline? Having trouble placing their students in New York big law?

Hubspot is getting way too expensive for my small business and they don’t care at all that they are pricing loyal customers out. What’s a more affordable alternative?

Vaccinated and going to Chicago for a graduation. What is the bar situation right now? Possible to walk in or are reservations necessary? And any bar recs are appreciated (staying near Gold Coast).

Wondering if I should look into anxiety meds (or if I’m just a baby and need to get used to this life).

Have you tried any? Did it help? Affect your productivity? Which ones? tya!

Going to listen to “The Man” as my prep song for big client meetings 💃🏻

Anyone have had any luck buying a diamond (for an engagement ring) directly from a wholesaler in NYC? If so, which one did you go to and what was that process like?

I got an offer from CBA India , I want to know the kind of work, work culture and hikes. Can I expect onsite after sometime? YOE- 6 years, Technology - Salesforce vlocity developer .

P&C salaries year level city

How do you let a recruiter know you're no longer interested in moving forward with a call you scheduled with them? After doing research, I found out the company that reached out is really toxic

What are salaries like for creatives working at advertising agencies in Tokyo? I know in general that the salary bands are lower than major cities in the USA but curious if anyone has any personal experience. This would be for an American agency with an office in Tokyo.

CapG Folks, What should be average CTC of C2 Manager grade at CapG in FS domain. Have received offer. YOE 3.8 CCTC 11.10

What are the best companies/industries to work in after transitioning back to Israel? ( if relevant with top MBA and consulting experience)
תודה!

My wife often calls me by 5:45/6 to ask where I am if I’m not headed home yet. Sometimes she’s stressed with kids/dogs/dinner and really wants me home. This really throws off my concentration because it makes me feel rushed. Like many practices sometimes I’m out at 5:30, other times it’s much later. Just depends and is unpredictable. Any advice on how to approach this?

Sometime I feel like I'm operating at lower capacity than during the height of Covid trying to navigate billables and no childcare/remote school. Anyone else feel this way? Are we just burnt out from all the working nights and weekend in 2020/2021?

Has anyone taken on side gigs here? In transactional real estate and could really use the extra money. I’m in-house and drowning in bills. Where did you post and what kind of insurance did you get?

Do you pay out of pocket on insurance premiums at your firm? My wife may leave her job to stay home and we’re on her insurance. My firm told me we’re $750/pay period or $18k/yr. that sounds absurd.

(Especially those of you with young children) how do you make time to exercise/be active?

Does anyone manage without having a nanny? Kids age 0-10

How many married professionals with young families are just sticking it out “for the kids”? Marriage is very dead and has been for a while. Young kids 4 and 1. My wife and I don’t fight, but share 0 interests outside of the kids and can’t stand to be around each other. I’m so ready to leave… I just can’t bear the thought of doing it to my children even though another part of me feels like wife and I would both be better parents if our lives were separate. Anyone else done a similar analysis?

What are we supposed to do with our kids during Winter break when school is closed for TWO WEEKS and we need to hit our billables?

Some people mentioned au pairs... tell me more! Why did you like/not like it, if you did the au pair thing?

Curious to know what the norm is — does your firm prorate your bonus for time that you are out on paid parental leave?

How do you manage the constant school cancellations? Do I need a nanny in addition to daycare?

Where would you begin w/ setting up your own solo practice? I am a military veteran and in need of some serious help (w/ starting a business that is). It is a long story, of which I might reveal more depending on the responses in the thread. Thanks in advance for entertaining such a broad question!

Trying to be really understanding about coworkers with no children feeling stressed during the holiday season, but it's hard not to ask if they'd prefer to go home to my sick kid, frustrated spouse and dirty house instead of their empty apartment where they have a flat screen TV and a beer waiting. How do you keep sane?

Came here to say that I wish I could fully express to my non-parent colleagues how much their support has meant to me. I can cover for them when they have stuff so they can unplug, but I feel like they will never truly understand the gratitude when they offer to do a task for me when my kid is sick, etc. Any ideas on how to pay it forward?

What are parents paying for baby sitters these days? Wife and I going out tonight for about 3-4 hours and have a local college student babysitting our toddler daughter tonight. Low-medium cost of living city and daughter will be asleep for most of the time. We’re thinking $15-20 per hour and make sure there are plenty of snacks around. Appropriate?

For parents with school-age kiddos (kindergarten up), what do you do for childcare? Thinking about giving up our nanny, but worried about juggling days off, sick days, and summer break.

Biglaw single parents? I’m a recently single parent. My ex is (almost) completely out of the picture now. Any other biglaw single parents with tips or tricks to making this work on my own?

My wife and I are both terrible housekeepers and our clutter is overwhelming us. We have two kids under 3 and a wonderful nanny but we need more help at home. How do we throw money at this problem? Where do we start to get ongoing professional help decluttering, organizing, cleaning, etc.? What has worked for you?

Have been hunting desperately for childcare bc spouse and I are both FT lawyers trying to handle 4 immunocompromised elementary age kids at home but have been striking out. Have even been considering having one of us take a leave, going part time (career suicide/knock us off partner track) or quitting. Just found someone highly recommended, experienced, patient, etc. Interview went super well but candidate disclosed they are in recovery for substance abuse, last relapse 2 yrs ago. DUI. Thoughts?

Brand new (like, just-had-a-kid new) mom here. Life seems manageable with the baby sleeping much of the time. It gets worse from here doesn’t it? I’m scared 😱😱😱