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That’s absolutely messed up… Unless it’s an absolute emergency there’s no reason to decline day of. Those that did, I’d cut off unless it was a really good reason. You have every right to be ticked off.
You’re not but as Attorney 1 mentioned. These are problems for another day. Enjoy your honey moon and move on! Don’t even think about it one bit until an event of there’s comes about.
Let it go. You’re starting a new life! Don’t start it with bitterness. You’ll have time and opportunities to deal with those emotions, but right now you need to just relax into all of the joy of this precious time of your life.
Yes, I'm focusing on the beautiful life around me but I needed this clarity about how I feel to even be able to focus.
We definitely cut off a few people after they INSISTED on being invited, RSVP'ed with plus ones, and then no-showed or texted the very last minute (when most of these guests were from out of state so they would have known weeks before that they weren't coming). In general, I think it's best to let these things go, but with certain people I think you can just tell based on the way they handled the situation that they are selfish and not people you really want in your life long term. I think it's totally reasonable to be upset and if you don't want to talk to them for a long time (or ever again), I would understand
Thank you! We had people asking for invites but couldn't invite them because these ones already RSVP'd. It's upsetting
I had a number of people no-show or cancel last minute for my wedding too—some with legitimate excuses (car accident, illness, injury), others with no reason. We also have a few RSVP for a plus one and then didn’t bring one. Those with no reason ticked me off because there were other people I would have invited in their place. All of this to say that I totally get it! But a year after my wedding, I don’t dwell on these things and have great memories with those who were there.
Exactly! We had people asking for invites but we had to decline since the space was already filled only for these people not to show up. I truly feel bitter towards some of them.
We spent a lot of money per person and arranged the small hall in a way that would accommodate everyone.
We would have arranged the tables differently if they had outrightly declined earlier or even declined the day before.
But they waited till the day of the event to call us that they're not coming or just didn't show up.
Not sure if I'm taking this hard because I'm someone that'd do everything to follow through with any commitment I make.
I plan to just carry on with my life and we won't be attending any of their events moving forward.
I absolutely think that you have a right to be upset. Especially because food and all that is paid for ahead of time based on the head count from the RSVP's. I am sure that some had a legit excuse but that many people not showing its unlikely they all were legit. I am so sorry that happened OP but you are very valid in your feelings.
Thank you! Food, rentals, table set up, etc., for each person added up quickly.
I'm so blown away that this happens so frequently nowadays. I'm assuming you are "younger" as are your friends... is the proper etiquette for a wedding RSVP not understood anymore?
If I'm wrong in my "younger" assumption, I'm curious, as I'm getting married in two months with mostly older Gen-X attending (or saying they are. hahaha). They'd better come if they RSVP'd!
Neither myself nor the guests who didn't show are GenZ. Interestingly all our GenZ invitees showed up prim and proper. 😂