5 months pregnant with my first and I am unhappy at work. Waiting to job hunt until after I’m back & nervous I’m going to have to sacrifice working anywhere cool bc of hours. Who can relate or advise?

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Apply to the cool places being 100% clear about your boundaries, whatever you decided them to be. The worst that can happen is you don’t get it and have to work at a less cool place. Personally, I went in-house for a few years while my kids were super little. It was great. I produced a ton of work, learned a ton and brought a lot of value back to agency life. But I don’t work at a “cool” agency. In my experience, prior to kids, the coolest agencies were the most toxic and unsustainable so there’s that. You’ll find a good fit. You can do this.

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Agree with this. I use to pride myself on working at cool shops and built a really strong resume. None of those places was sustainable to having a kid (let’s be honest, being a mom, not just being a parent), and I’m now at a less cool shop with a lot more balance

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Well this is a cool agency horror story... my first kid was almost 1 and I got recruited by an ad tech shop I had been interested in. Lot more money and promotion offered, which helped with daycare! My only two deal-breakers were weekly travel and in my role, I needed to know if they were growing to be acquired or stay independent. Basically - HR and CEO lied to my face about both. I worked there 5 days before being told they had been acquired by a holding company. Of course, the goals immediately changed. Also I was immediately booked into weekly travel. I quit after 8 days and went back to my old agency. Just sharing to say - as a working mom who wants to balance work and family, being at the coolest agency may become less important to you. What about your current job makes you unhappy? That would be good to identify, and make a list of what you want in your next role, and what are your non-negotiables.

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Wow that’s shitty. Good advice! Thank you much

I can totally relate to this. I'm 5 months post partum, but man, do your priorties shift. I think it's a good idea to wait until you're back to job hunt and make any decisions. Having a kid is such a HUGE upheaval physically, mentally, and in your overall lifestyle, so give yourself the time and space you need. Someone told me to wait until I'd been back a few months to make any big decisions, and I'm so glad I did. The first few months of new-momhood is pure survival mode, and I'm not sure I could've added a new job on top of it all. Sometimes the devil you know is better than the devil you don't until you can really figure out what will really work for your new situation. That said, everyone's situation and experience is very different, so fingers crossed you find something you love!

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Well said. Thanks!

Yes, very relatable! Remember that moms are beasts and can do anything we put our minds to!! You’re going to give life to another human being, you can certainly apply to the “cool” agency! Realistically it’s just 1 more thing working against you in the job hunt though so expect some pushback but honestly would you want to work somewhere that can’t decently handle you being a new parent? Keep your head up!

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All great points!

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I would focus more on a job that meets your personal and career needs than something that is “cool.”

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Came in to say exactly that. “Cool” is overrated. Stable and fulfilling with little munchkins is where it’s at.

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Having a kid is really a huge change. The kind of change that you try to anticipate but can’t really because it’s so huge. So my advice is to be kind and gentle to yourself and know that it will take time to adjust to a kid in your life and balancing that with work and everything else.

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