6 years sober here. I’m 33 and live in NYC. If anyone is curious about sobriety or wants to hear my story - read on!

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Was introduced to recovery in my early 20’s but didn’t think it was for me. I was always the life of the party, and I thought being sober would be the death of fun. My drinking/drug use progressed and I got to a point where I would promise myself I wasn’t going to drink or get high the next day. Next day would come, and I would end up getting drinking or getting high! I later learned that I was experiencing the phenomenon of craving. Basically, my primitive brain (amygdala) was telling my body what to do. I couldn’t just stay stopped on my own so I sought lots of support. I moved into sober living, joined AA, saw a therapist and started working with a sponsor. I also was drug tested regularly for extra accountability. Not all of this is necessary, but recovery rates from addiction are pretty low without lots of support. The BEST thing is that in my sober life, I reconnected with that same “life of the party” energy— I can go anywhere and do anything others can, I just don’t drink and I don’t do drugs. My relationships are better, my finances are better, and most of all, I go through the day relatively worry-free. Yes, life has challenges. The difference today is that I don’t have to drink over them - they pass more quickly - I get to feel all the associated emotions and move on. I get to be available for my family and friends. I’m trustworthy. When it’s time for drinks with coworkers, I just order a seltzer with lime. It’s never caused an issue. Yes, I’ve had to turn down shots and cocktails and champagne toasts. Other people rarely think twice about it. I’ve heard many say that sobriety is a superpower. In sobriety, I found that there was so much more to life than just living for myself. On days where movies, commercials, and social media make me feel like I’m missing something, I remind myself of all the beautiful things I have in my life today and the people that I’ve been able to help. Trading that for something temporary doesn’t seem like a fair trade. Hope this helps someone!

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I am in nyc too would love to do a sober meet up!

I’m in DC but would love a sober meet up as well. Alcohol basically arrested my development for 15 years but I’ve turned around so much in the last year I’ve been sober. Going back to pandemic life is going to be an adjustment though so I’m looking to find people who understand the lifestyle as well

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