Been doing the alcohol experiment, on day 26. Hosted a family for dinner- my kids were awful and my husband was super stressed running the grill. Our guests brought my favorite Rose and it took everything in me not to have some. I still feel it 😞

Salam. 23M here - all my life I’ve had my back on our faith - never really prayed but had imaan (I guess). After bouts of depression from girl problems (🙄), issues within immediate family, being disappointed expectations I had for myself, etc. I’ve been working on bettering my situation over the years. Faith is the only area where I think I need more guidance. Having trouble relating to friends or family about this. Anyone else been thru something similar? How have you connected back to Islam?

Moving to San Diego in the spring from the central coast. Any recs on places to live (late 30’s with a kid)? Want to be close to restaurants and things to do, but a little too old and tired for gas lamp!

To those with an anxious attachment style and have trust issues due to past childhood trauma you’re still healing from: How do you keep yourself from thinking your significant other is going to cheat on you when she/he goes to a party or out while you’re miles away? I’ve been in therapy to help, and trying to distract myself but my anxiety is keeping it from working and don’t want to put that pressure on him because I’m trying to work on it.

my sister died this morning. I posted about her in a past post. Alcohol addiction, liver failure and then it taxed the kidneys too much, she went into cardiac arrest at 9 am and they could not save her. She was 51. Sad day for sure. Feels odd that she is no longer here. I just wish she could have had a better future.

I’ve been a family caregiver for four years, and now look to return to the workforce. I realize that this will be a bit difficult, especially during these economic conditions, plus other factors, such as being an older employee, etc. I updated my account with a few job sites, adding on the fact that I took time off to care for a family member. I would appreciate some advice, anything that would be helpful.

Anyone have a primer on working with children? From a business affairs perspective?

Parents - do any of you truly regret having kids?

Would you break up with your girlfriend if she doesn’t want kids and you do.... this has been weighing on my mind a lot recently...

First-gen grad students, does your family put pressure on you to succeed? It feels like our relationship is them just bugging me about my work. I’d love some advice, I miss my fam.

How do I divide the chores in this case? I’m the breadwinner - husband has been taking time off from work. No kids. Two dogs.

I feel like I do more chores because there are some things that I just can’t stand. Like dishes left in the sink, dirty floor, dirty dogs, laundry…etc. When I ask him to do those chores, he says he will do them later but he takes forever. So I do them instead. He does grocery shopping, yard work, some cooking. Is it unfair if I repeatedly ask him to do more? 😡😡

30 year old male daddy hunter. Slide into my DMs if you’ll be my father figure until the end of time.

Opinions on career clerkships? Especially with a two year old and wanting another child eventually.

Literally nothing to do with the law, but I want to hear some theories. We live in a super normal, suburban neighborhood. Across the street is a family— husband, wife, 2 teenage daughters. Every couple nights, before COVID and during, I hear the husband either coming home late or sometimes even leaving in his car. I don’t think he’s sneaking around on his wife because if I’m noticing this, she definitely is. WHAT IS HE DOING?!

Xoxo, a nosy neighbor with nothing better to do.

As much as I talk about wanting a man to take care of me financially, I have way too much pride to allow it when it actually happens

My relationship just ended yesterday because he wanted to “focus on myself and figure things out.” My relationship before that ended (~2 years ago) because he wanted to focus on himself. I can’t help but feel like it’s because something is wrong with me. What am I doing wrong?

A guy that I’ve been seeing over the past few months just lost his job - what can I do to support him? Not his SO and we are quarantining with our respective families on opposite coasts, but I like him a lot and want to show that I care without being overbearing/overstepping boundaries. BTW he’s also a consultant and got let go after reviews due to performance reasons and his firm not doing so well.

I have pretty strong social phobia and am worried about making friends. I'm going to be working for an engineering company so I imagine I don't have to be really up on the latest trends or anything but how can I talk to people without making it sound unnatural?

The death of my best friend in combat will forever haunt me, no matter how hard I want to accept it and let it go. I've been remembering every day since I came back. It's so hard to deal with this on my own.

How does a person change their mindset to be more positive? I feel like I’m meant for my job, but blame all my life problems on it….having no energy, being single at the age of 30, etc. and it seems like a never ending loop. I look for new jobs, realize I have a good job then am ok for a bit then start it all over again. When I’m off of work I’m fine and realize I have it pretty good. Only real negative is I can’t vacation with my family in March due to my busy time.

Have been sober for many years but currently relapsed and am in a downward spiral. I’m close to losing my family but I can’t seem to get my head together. Feel like I need a few months out, maybe take some time off work… has anyone done similar and did it help?

do any of you have a problem where it seems like somebody has been going through your workdesk while out of the office? it seems like almost every morning I come in, something is not where (cont'd)

Hey there - I recently moved from the States. Former PwC, currently in HF space. Would love to meet for coffee or drinks if anyone’s interested

CDs and above: salary and city?

Hi Fishes,
I've been offered for Engineering expert position at Novartis India. I've received offer letter 2 weeks back and my DOJ is updated to Mid December. I told the HR that my current company's last working day is on mid January and resend the offer letter with mid Jan as my DOJ. But they told that they can send the revised offer letter 3 weeks before the joining date.
Is this normal process? Has anyone gone through similar experience?

US peeps, what are you doing for thanksgiving?

I don’t understand how someone can lie about loving you for 6 months. We were together for almost a year (broke up a week before our anniversary). I said I love you first and he said it back. I asked for more reassurance last month with saying I love you more often. Now all of a sudden he said he didn’t know if he loved me and that love meant marriage for him. Okay well great thanks for telling me this now, 6 months after it was initially exchanged. I don’t understand how he could do that.

Hello Fishes, Please help me in understanding the health insurance policy at Nagarro. Is spouse and parents by default enrolled in the default 3 lac amount? If not, what’s the premium amount I need to pay?

I am joining on 2 November but haven’t received any onboarding details. Do I need to follow up with the HR.

Anyone in the DC area know if the Friday prayer in Rosslyn (at Arlington Temple) ever came back after the pandemic?

Hi,

JPMC call candidate with 3 months of np for interview and expected CTC for 3.6 years of experience with techstack as java fullstack?

Does having AWS Certification help H1B case?

Now entering my third week of no booze, after getting horribly and embarrassingly wasted at my work summer party. I won't lie, even though I find myself wanting a drink often, it feels really good.

"Cagency" folk, how are you finding it?

My live-in bf of 6 years and I just broke up. Our lease is ending in 2 months, but I’m considering moving back home to Chicago. Would that be a bad move considering my office is in NYC & quarantine might end sometime this year?

I recently went freelance as an EP and started my own LLC as well (to get the full benefits of being a freelancer). Some agencies and clients want to pay on a W2 versus 1099 / as an independent contractor. Should I still take the gig if W2 or stand my ground and pass?

I’ve created this bowl to discuss sobriety

6 years sober here. I’m 33 and live in NYC. If anyone is curious about sobriety or wants to hear my story - read on!

Nothing used to make me happier than my end of work cocktail on Friday evening. I’ve been replacing it with soda for the last few months but that’s getting old / isn’t an exciting way to mark the transition to weekend. What do you drink on Friday nights?

I need help, I don’t know where to start. I literally could not imagine social situations without alcohol

Hey everyone. Happy to come across this bowl. I got sober in the pandemic so it was a relatively easy transition due to the lack of temptation or pressure to partake in social gatherings. For those of you who have been sober longer and also have an active social life, do you have tips on the transition? Did you seek out new friends or just change the way you hung out with existing ones

Hey I’ll. I’ve decided to take the leap into sobriety. Something that my upbringing and career will make difficult, but at this time it’s my only path forward if I want to keep my family and job. How do you all get through work events being sober?