A very respected member of our company hit on me yesterday. He’s very married and he asked me if I was married and said “I wouldn’t wanna be flirty with another man’s wife” before proceeding. Why is it that men respect imaginary men they don’t know more than the woman in front of them or their own wife whom I’ve also met! How do you deal with harassment at work without damaging your career?

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This happened to me at a work holiday party as well. Unfortunately I recommend looking for a new job/company. There’s a good chance that they will make your work life harder for rejecting them.

Tell your partner, friend, someone that you trust. Certainly don’t tell HR.

Sorry to hear this happened to you.

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Ugh in this economy? The last thing I wanna do is job search 😩😩😩

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I laugh it off and joke about it. It's all I can do without being seen as "dramatic" or "causing problems." Just treat it like a joke so you don't damage any egos and steer clear.

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Yeah that’s what I’ve tried to do. It’s just so awkward

OP, how’s it going? What did you decide to do?

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I hope you’re doing better now!

Just laugh it off and move on. He’s an adult and can make his own mistakes. He clearly asked you first, which, as sleezy as it makes him look, is the right thing to do.

You’re apparently attractive enough to be flirted with, and unless he said something else or physically touched you, I don’t see the reason to be offended.

Again, it’s a sleezy thing for him to do, but what you’ve described doesn’t strike me as a reason to change jobs. But I’m a male who would never make a comment like that to a coworker so idk. Maybe getting hit on is supposed to offend you.

He rubbed my thigh under the table when he said it. It’s only flattering to be hit on if there’s mutual interest. I don’t understand why men have the audacity to shoot their shot when they should keep those thoughts in their heads smh.

So sorry this happened!

Thank you

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