GF is 32 and I’m 28. She wants kids within 2 years, understandably. I never envisioned having kids that early (more like late 30s), but I like her a lot. Anyone else gone through something similar?

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I understand where you're coming from. Can you guys compromise? Women are able to have children later now, depending on their health and hormones, that's something that you can get checked out at a good gynecologist. She could hopefully have children until early forties.

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Also, there’s always an option to adopt later. How badly does she want kids?would she rather have kids without someone else ?

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