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Hi,
I'm currently having an offer from BlueOptima and Cohesity and am conflicted between the two.
I have offers in the SDET profile.
Cohesity Inc is providing me MTS and @BlueOptima is providing SDET-1.
Glassdoor reviews more of less place the two companies almost equally, and the package being offered by the two is almost in the same range.
My preferences include:
Learning opportunities in the role.
Company's work environment.
Company's growth prospects, are also a consideration.
YOE: 2 years
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Maybe you’re not in a field that you love/respect and makes you feel good about yourself?
I was agency side and always felt not good enough. Now that I moved brand side with a team of empaths and amazing culture, titles and chest beating don’t matter at all.
I feel valued by leadership, and couldn’t care less about titles and promotions the same way I used to agency side. I was also extremely driven/ambitious but the work culture has made me care about other things, like life. They encourage me to care about my family and I feel so much better about myself while also doing work I love.
Maybe I change of work environment?
Ha sorry I can’t - all I can say is that it’s an early stage startup which also makes it easier to have a family-like culture. We’re 35. I know things start to break once we grow so I’m enjoying every moment.
That said, I would recommend trying brand side firms that have a reputation of having a good culture! There are lists of brands with good culture. On Glassdoor you can’t find companies with the least negative reviews, etc.
For example I was told several times that people at Facebook are SO nice they couldn’t believe it (after enduring so much abuse from the industry).
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The best thing I can tell you is that I have a peer who has skyrocketed recently. I told her over drinks one night a while back: what happened, you like blew up and now you’re killin it? And she reminded me: it’s bc my kids are now grown. Remember when they were young? I was just doing the bare minimum while you were on fire? Trust me... once your kids are a little older, you’ll be able to recalibrate and get your head back in the game. That made me feel a lot better. I’m still waiting...
I went through that too but ultimately worked through it. I took a step back after my first child was born because I needed it for my mental health. I am not as career driven as I once was because I have two kids now and I need a better balance in order to be happy. It still stings when I see others progressing career wise because I am type A and have that competitive spirit still but not at the detriment of my well being. I know in the long run I’ll remember moments with my family over moments with work.
The struggle is real!
I have two under 5 years old (14 months apart) > my energy, drive and focus are coming back. The newborn experience was the worst (for me)—so this stage is starting to be fun. All I can say is that it gets easier as they age + be patient. Have no shame taking days for yourself because weekends are not relaxing or refreshing when you are a parent of littles — ultimately, we need to normalize that weekend exhaustion is real and find ways to work through it.
Been there! Also wrestled with my competitive instincts after coming back from my first kiddo. With time though I’ve come to realize that it doesn’t have to be an all or nothing game. I’ve got two now and there are periods where I feel like I really have the energy and drive to take on more and other times where I’m content with where I am and happy to stay in neutral for a while. I think the most important thing is thinking about what you want holistically and what balance will bring you the most satisfaction. Have managed to continue upward trajectory even by taking an occasional year where I was willing to just be in “maintain” mode. (This admittedly does depend somewhat on your company culture).
Also try not to get stuck in the trap of comparisons to others. You don’t know what sacrifices they’re making in other areas to have the career they do. And maybe things they don’t see as sacrifices (eg family/kids) mean much more to you. Focus on the balance that works for you and know that sometimes that balance may shift for a variety of reasons
Take it one day at a time. I have 3 young kids (under 8) and there are days I feel like I’m barely getting by and then there are days where I feel like I killed it. As my kids get older I definitely am seeing a pattern of more days where I feel like I killed it versus just a few years ago, I was struggling more.
Separately, it also helps if you are at an agency where people understand. So much of our leadership has young children so it makes a huge difference.
Same! I feel the same. It is depressing me.
I have 2 under 2 and same girl same.