Queer Gals & Non-Binary Pals (And More!)

Anyone make significantly more than their partner? I am feeling the pressure of being the breadwinner..wanted to gain some perspective from others.

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Yep. I am breadwinner for my SO and our son.

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Definitely a pressure in terms of progression. If I don’t do well we’ve made the wrong bet career wise which is scary. But at the same time I am very driven and this gives me permission to be that - eg if we need to move countries then we can do that at short notice because career is the priority, vs other couples where there would need to be more compromise due to the other person’s career.

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Yes! gf is amazing and quit her job last year to work on a start up. Makes zero money right now, which for us isn’t a problem. I’ve found in the past that I don’t mind if partners make less than me, but I do really mind if they aren’t driven/passionate about what they do!

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I found that a way to help make things feel more equal is if the other person contributes in more non money-earning ways like running errands, etc. Not to say that everything should be delegated like that (don't need that expectation) but it certainly helps start a conversation about contributing in an equitable manner! 😊 For example, my partner helps me to hem my pants while I am busy working late and it is extremely helpful. Money isn't the only output of labor, and all labor can be appreciated in the same way!

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Oh good question! My partner and I are waiting several more years for that, but I can see the dilemma... since kids are an investment for the both of you, maybe something you can do is break out all of the estimated costs (requiring money or other forms of labor) and determine how to divide them up amongst yourselves in a fair way!

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pretty sure my job has evolved into being a full time stand up comedian of my agency. i write decks full of funny shit. clients laugh. then buy the safe stuff. sick.

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Slalom D.C. 🐠, what is the culture like there? What type of work/industries you focus on? I’ve heard good things but nothing specific about D.C. and i gather Slalom varies quite a bit by market.

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Is it almost a given that if you been at a big 4 for two years, and you were to leave, that you can get hired on at a smaller firm?

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I was just talking to a younger friend who goes to Cal and It seems like the kids these days hate FAANG or at least Amazon and Facebook are not desired at all. I personally don’t see too many issues working at either Amazon or Facebook because I work at Deloitte where I’m sure we have many questionable clients and worked in financial services before. Curious on whether people are thinking about the ethics of their exit company when deciding to move?

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Am I the only one on the bench? God Please give me the will to reinvest. Amen.

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Leaving Accenture and they are asking for original version of receipts for previously approved and reimbursed expense reports... has this happened to anyone? (don't have the originals but have copies)

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I found out that I was pregnant (unplanned) last week and it has absolutely shredded my relationship. I left the home my bf and I share, and I came to stay with my family. Part of the reason it got so bad is because he vehemently wants me to get an abortion, and I don’t know if I can do it. There wasn’t even a discussion of keeping it. He told me in no uncertain terms that he would resent me forever. I need help. Can anyone recommend a virtual counselor for us? Does anyone have any advice?

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Has anyone had any experience working for or applying to the boutique IT consulting firm “Prokarma”

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Been at Pwc for 8 years, never interviewed elsewhere before recently. How does process generally work once you get offer elsewhere? Is proper protocol to notify partners once offer is in hand?

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Staying at the Miami Edition for my birthday! Used my points, and am a Platinum Elite member. Any ideas on how to ask the hotel if they do anything nice for birthdays? Also, how to get upgrades?

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Has anybody jumped or tried to jump from Big 4 to MBB? Can it be done without MBA? 2nd year senior associate at Pwc here with 4 years at the firm.

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Is the work life balance at MBB perceived to be better, worse, or the same as the other non-boutique consulting firms?

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Cheap travel recommendation from NYC where I can enjoy nice scenery, food, etc but spend the majority of my time cranking out MBA application essays? Plan B is just stay in NYC...

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Do skip level promotions at EY (i.e S1 to S3 or S2 to M1) come with a larger raise then the average raise if you were to move up in rank normally?

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Anyone at MRM have a little insight into the interview process?

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What’s the status of everyone’s work from home situation. Has anyone returned to the office, given options to return or told to stay out till the first of the new year?

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One thing I won't miss about teaching in the classroom is ______________.

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How many interviews did you have before getting an offer? Undergrad doesn't count. I had 4.

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I have stayed 114 nights but spent only $16k this year. I think i’m going to be downgraded from Ambassador elite to Titanium elite. What benefits do I lose? Which of those benefits really matter?

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