Being single is ruining me financially

I’m a 30yo woman, working in consulting and make a very decent salary. However I pay all bills myself and live in zone 2 so I see much less benefit compared to my friends who are in relationships and are starting to buy houses.

The problem is that all men I meet are only interested in my physically. I cannot imagine myself making life decisions with them, but I also want the economic benefits of a relationship. Where do you find responsible men?

Oh this post struck a cord with me!
To the women who have mastered their careers but are still searching for their person: I’ve been in your shoes, and I promise the wait is worth the reward.
As a former member of this "ambitious and successful singles" club, I truly hear your plight. Now that I’ve been living happily with my partner for two and a half years, I often look back and wonder what advice I’d give my younger self.
It is a tough rite of passage to go through. The years of pain, curiosity, and frustration are hard to forget. My biggest takeaway? Persevere until you find the RIGHT partner. A friend who found her match before I did simplified it to a numbers game: sometimes you have to date many just to find that one.
The journey can be soul destroying and exhausting. However, since you all have the drive to make a success of your careers, I have full faith you will apply that same determination to find the right life partner.
The reward is sweet (and occasionally annoying, nothing is ever perfectly rosy!), but the goal is to find the person who makes you feel like you are "home"—the one you can truly be relaxed and yourself with.
NEVER SETTLE just for financial security. Have faith; sometimes it takes longer than we’d like, especially if you're keen to start a family, but it happens when it’s meant to happen for you.
Being a strong, independent woman with your own career and financial stability is vital. The right partner won't be intimidated by your success; they will be the one cheering the loudest from the front row. They are there to complement the life you’ve already built.
Keep the faith!

Well, be honest and upfront. You are looking for someone to help "pay the way." Men are not stupid, and you can admit to this when you start dating someone, as it seems to be your primary reasoning. People look for mates for different reasons. Your decision is an economic partner. If you "own up" from the beginning, it will eliminate any "false starts," and you will only wind up with interest from men who have no problem with this qualification. On the other hand, be prepared for the word to go around your dating circles about the truth behind what type of engagement you are looking for.

The answer is not dating/living together, the answer is marriage to one person for the rest of your life. The right person that God can provide.

In a similar situation as a male. London really does humble you, unless you have your property situation sorted you’ll always feel poor, there’s not much you can do.

My advice is have a solid route to purchasing property. That way you can see the end of the tunnel. There’s no magic wand (aside family money) that will solve this for you.

In terms of men? I suggest you keep dating, plenty responsible men exist, you just need to find them (maybe you have bad taste in men? Speak to your girlfriends I’m sure they’ll tell you. I have friends that we shout at because they go after the worst types). Problem is you’ll have to wait until your relationship develops to truly know if it’ll work for you both.

Theres risk here, but this is life I suppose, not supposed to be easy (fwiw, you’re in a successful career, still young and have a lot ahead of you which is exciting, try not to be too hard on yourself)

Find a Service Academy grad to start a new relationship. Of course, start to find a West Point (as we are the most truthful and devoted to our friends and partners) then Air Force and finally Navy.

I understand how difficult it can be to meet anyone through traditional social networks.
My best advice in general is: don't be afraid to strike up conversation with men you might be interested in at the grocery store: every once in a while I will run into someone and drop a stray comment related to what they're doing. If you're willing to be vulnerable, it's a great way to meet people because everyone has to go buy food.
Secondly, since you're a professional, I understand finances are difficult, but if you can squeeze any bit of money together, ​spend money on a matchmaker or other paid service. People who pay money tend to be serious and a matchmaker does the weeding for you much faster and with less emotional toll on you.

You might want to check out "Burned Haystack Dating Method" on Facebook. (I believe there's now a book, as well as an Instagram presence of some sort, but the Facebook community seems the most active.)

It may sound cliché but what is meant to be will be

I feel you! I am feeling the same way. I have three children and am living in a single income home. I make decent money but it gets me nowhere with bills, rent and everything else. I separated with my husband and got a glimpse of the dating scene and it was not appealing what so ever. All I can say is do not settle to get out of it. You are on the right path and exactly where you are meant to be. The right one will come.

Today we are playing a game of real or satire.

Ummmm is this forum the best place to ask...where to find men?
To find a good man, focus on places that align with your values and interests, such as volunteering, professional networking events, hobby-based groups (e.g., hiking, book clubs, cooking classes), or faith-based organizations. Other effective, less traditional spots include hardware stores, airport lounges, or high-end coffee shops.
I can't believe I'm answering this on glassdoor...

here I am - 6 figure income - widowed - white christian - own $800,000 home - practice kindness - read the Bible - two can live as cheaply as one.

congratudolences, welcome to manhood

Look at the Hot/Crazy scale and find out where you are

Let this be a warning to all the strong and independent boss babes out there. You should have thought about this when you where in your 20's. All that is left now is the wall, cats, and boxed wine.

Wow 👌

Please do not get into a relationship just to save money! Right now I am looking for a third job because my husband has been unemployed for a year.

If your state allows you to marry a woman, legally marry a friend of yours and set up house together.

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Good question. When you find the answer please share.

I think about this a lot. I'm a single man, make a very nice salary. If I had a partner who made a similar salary to me, we'd be able to have a nice home, a lake house, and vacation all the time since one of our salaries could essentially be our "slush money" to build up massively over time.

The problem is finding someone to fall in love and spend the rest of my life with.

“While many people enjoy working in corporate (I don’t)” < —- this right here. This is where you need to start.

Also you need to be a certain kind of delulu to *actually* enjoy working in corporate

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If you are entrepreneurial, motivated, and interested in being part of a legitimate business opportunity, I invite you to share your contact information. I will review your background and determine whether you meet the qualifications for partnership.

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If you are serious about growth and building something meaningful, I look forward to hearing from you.