Building out a new function at my company, top 15 bank in the US, and scheduled a 90 minute meeting last week for today. Invite included an agenda and a teams link to the document we would be reviewing. Also asked for attendees to review ahead. 20 minutes in, my co-worker exclaims while I’m mi-sentence we should meet Thurs. after having a chance to review content… WHAT?! What should I have done in that situation?

What is the advice on what feedback to leave for a peer who really sucks at everything y'all have worked together on? It's about the time where everyone on my team requests feedback from each other and I'm nervous for it coming up. My manager knows that everything I've worked w her on I end up doing 90% of the work when it's meant to be split so it is a known issue. We're both at level 3 so are genuinely peers. She seems like a nice person but i have 0 positive work feedback tbh

How do you deal with references as a freelancer? Most of my past gigs - I had managers on paper but it was a formality as I led my own work so don't feel comfortable asking them to be a reference.

I am done trying to pretend everything is fine at work. The higher ups on the team kept asking if I’m doing anything fun for the weekend during video calls. I felt the pressure to make something up but I just can’t. I’ve been struggling with depression, loneliness, anxiety with immigration and the fact that I might be out of work soon cuz my visa is expiring. I’m thousands of miles away from my family and I just want everything to stop. But when my manager kept asking in front of everyone am I

Thoughts on a manager texting you to ask why you aren’t online Easter weekend when all of your work is completed and another senior who can’t handle their own work decided to randomly send you their returns to review?

There’s no reason you have to put up with a job you hate. I spent many years working in a toxic environment with a boss who gossiped and lead through fear. He wasn’t really much of a leader but basically a foreman. And he could make my existence miserable. I admit that it wasn’t easy to find another job but the bottom line is: trust your guts. If you feel something is wrong it’s because it probably is. Don’t second guess yourself. Look for options and and fight for your mental health.

The old administrator at my department won't allow me to write on what I want, even though I thought that was implicit when I joined. Can I push her to allow me to take control of my research?

Do we need follow any dress code when working from office?

Formal/Smart Casuals/Kuch bhi ??

Do you give the office manager (who does assist you with admin tasks from time to time) a christmas present (aka cash)? I have an admin assistant so that's an obvious yes but I don't know how to handle the office manager or receptionist!

Has anyone successfully transferred teams in the same agency? At a prior agency when my partner & I did, it was an “issue”. Trying to do something now but respect everyone. Ppl are just so protective.

Just got let go and my manager said part of it was because I was looking for other jobs. I didn't look for other jobs at work, so I'm not sure how they could have known that unless a coworker snitched on me. Is it worth it to try and find out who or should I just leave it? Can't deny that I'm seriously pissed off about it.

Any advice for presenting somebody else’s work? I’ve been stretched thin on different projects but have to present in place of some of on vacation with little time to prepare.

My boss asked me to submit my career aspirations after bringing in someone in a new position over me. Is this a bill shit assignment? Has anyone else ever asked to do this?

I just left a very toxic work place.
The crazy thing is they were just named the best local municipality to work for. It's upsetting. They advertise a "culture" but don'tapply it. It felt like a used car sales pitch, I was sold a dream but given junk. I am constantly replaying moments. I have read so many books and everything leads to they were the problem. How do I recover from this?

My coworker always takes a super long lunch. How does he have the time to get anything done?

My GCD barely says hi to me when passing + doesn’t listen to me in meetings. It’s not a gender thing bc I see him talk to senior ADs all the time. How do I not be THAT junior?

What is your understanding of the norms around whose names end up on a brief/complaint/motion papers etc.? I’m a midlevel at an AmLaw 20 firm and have twice been the principal drafter of something only to be cut from the signature block. The associate senior to me is on it despite having done far less of the work. And it’s not because it required a rewrite or something. The filed product is 80-90% my work. Am I wrong to be pissed off about this?

How do you explain to a interviewer that you are leaving your job because your new boss doesn't treat you well/fairly?

This might seem silly, but does anyone have a script for giving notice? Lol. Or at least good points to hit on? Particularly partners— what has/has not gone over well? Main concern here is to not burn any bridges.

Top 3 most useful VBA macro codes you use everyday? Would you mind sharing the VBA code or a link showing the code? I’ll start (cont.)

What to do if you haven’t heard from the embassy for 75 days. They have my passport. I came in for my H1B interview, VO told me it’s approved and I shall have my passport in 5 days. It’s in AP cont.

I’m a non-TX immigration attorney mentoring a UT student who went to my undergrad. He’s done incredibly well in OCI and pre-OCI. Thus far, he’s landed interviews with (all in Houston): Baker Botts, Sidley Austin, Kirkland, Winston Strawn, Reed Smith, Norton Rose, and Locke Lord. Also Perkins Coie in Dallas. He’s leaning transactional, but also open to litigation. Any insights/advice on these firms in the TX market? Any to avoid?

Thinking of moving from Big4 cyber to Accenture cyber. Any major differences (other than no channel restrictions).

Is it a norm to send a thank you note through your recruiter? I had an iffy interview, and wondering if I bother sending a thank you note. It was very clear that they were trying to do a stress interview so I feel weird saying the usual nice things.

Clever ways to get cheaper housing? What's your hack to beat the system?

Married, 2 kids under 3 yrs. Apartment is too small, but we can't afford bigger. Do we rent a 2-story house and split it with another family? Do we stay in our small apartment and get creative with bunk beds and storage solutions?

How can a family, with kids, and one crappy income ($82,000) get a comfortable living situation here?

Does ey file premium for h1b renewal? My h1b expires end of Sep this yr. Was planning to reach out to EY Law to kickstart process in May. Is that reasonable?

Anyone had gone through from E3 to GC route without moving to H1B. This is coming from a Non Aussie born individual. Can anyone share the timeline and experience? Thanks

Starting to feel I don’t like litigation. Third year. I’m not excited about winning an argument or destroying the other party’s arguments. But the current market doesn’t seem to favor a transition.

At what point do you begin to feel numb (if ever) when you’re done trial and prepping for another trial in a span of 3 months, while mains full caseload of other active litigation cases? Should I be worried that I’m going from engaged and stress to numb and slightly indifferent? Or is this what it feels like to power through? I can’t gauge it anymore? And can’t impose judgment one way or another either.

Have an opportunity to finally get out of insurance defense. But not really sold on the firm. Could finally get out of ID, but then could also end up at another place I really don't like. Def want my next firm to be long term as I've jumped around.

Any tips on how to bring in clients to the firm? I do L&E and one of the things my firm goes over during annual evals is whether we bring in business, even for third year associates.

When you hear that staff 1s we're just laid off... 😳

Anyone else manually tracking EE bonus/relo? We use ADP and the payroll process is very cumbersome. Looking for better ways to track this or possibly automate. Curious to hear how some folks are approaching this.

Does GDC have a reputation as a good place to work in BL?

Any international senior creatives who are on O1 visa ? Need some assistance please.

Anyone ever get friendzoned by a guy and then have things work out for them eventually?

Hi tgif everyone I am from Singapore and I am looking out for remote job opportunities i have over 12 years experience in banking and digital marketing business development I looking for referral if someone here can help me thank you

Had to cut a call short saying battery about to die coz I wanted to eat my vada pav in peace. 🥴

Just spent 15 minutes buying a flight on the jet blue app... is there software really that slow?

Would you take lump sum payment or annuity payment? Why?

What work/life event (if any) made you arrive to the conclusion “this is just a job”? How old were you? At what point in your career / How many years of tenure?
How did your attitude towards work and work-life balance change?
Have you ever revisited or regretted your conclusion? Why/why not?

I feel like a failure as a parent at times - my youngest daughter is extremely anxious about middle school and in the first week has already had two emotional breakdowns. She is so worried about people picking on her and not having friends. I have reached out to the counselor and principal with hopes to get her some support in school, but I can’t do anything to make it better. I feel like I should be able to do more than encourage her but I know some battles she had to fight on her own.

Everyone likes me because I'm a doormat with no boundaries. I do anything and say anything to make people happy. I will think what you think I should think. Will you be my friend?

What’s your most favourite thing to do and your gender?

At what net worth will you be comfortable quitting your current job to pursue a less-paying “dream” job?

Confession. I love hallmark Christmas movies. Even in July...

I'm a light sleeper who cares too much about the people around me, but I've got a flight to London next Friday from 7pm NYC time to 7am UK time, and I'd really like to master sleeping on a plane just this once and not be in jet lag hell for the entire day after I land. I'll be in premium economy in an aisle seat. I usually take melatonin before bed and sleep on my side. Does anyone have suggestions for an OTC sleeping pill or pillow that actually works, or other advice for sleeping on a plane?

I’m a mess. My Bf Has surgery this week. I’m so scared one of the docs/nurses will have covid and pass it on to him. I cant sleep.

I have to keep reminding myself that I don't need validation from certain people. It's hard.

My parents got divorced 6 years ago and my dad kinda gave up on life. His American dream was to graduate with an actuary degree (which he did 2 years ago) and find a corporate job but it never happened...He gave up on life to a point that has no food and is behind rent because he doesn't want to get a $15 an hour job or a maintenance/painting job. He doesn't do drugs or alcohol and my wife is going to kill me if she finds out again that I gave him money again.

I joined my current company 3 months ago when I suffered from depression, but I didn't tell the recruiter or anyone. Now I feel I'm really not able to contribute 100% in my current role, but I don't want to share my depression with my employer. I still need the $. Suggestion please?

As a man are you looking for an extremely successful lady that is extremely career driven and willing to do whatever it takes to make it to the next level or are you more attracted to a lady that is happy at the level she is at and takes the next step as it comes? To put things into simple terms would you rather a 9-5 lady or a 9- whenever the job is done lady? Explain why please.

Took my little dude to Target so he could buy a Xmas gift for his sibling. While browsing, he lost his $42 he’d been saving up. Same kid found a wallet packed with cash and credit cards at Disney a couple months back, and gave the wallet to the Disney employees —cuz it was the right thing to do. Today he learned that not everyone shares the same values and not to keep cash in a ziploc😞

Cant wait until baseball disappears forever. Boring, perfomance-enhancing sus af 69inning havinazz sleeping pill of a sport; the most boringazz sport in the history of exxxistence itself. Shiets like big pharma, putting the whole of humanity to zzzzzz good god I hope god deletes baseball even tho I dun believe god exists but truth is the real thing that shouldn't exist is baseball fuk