Child is just about three weeks old and is not sleeping at all. He was sleeping about 1.5-2 hour chunks but now we’re lucky if we get an hour from him. He’s constantly fighting the swaddle. Plz help!

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Swaddle him, and you have to let him cry himself to sleep. It’s hard to hear them cry, I know, it’s a biological response to want to hold them. But you have to let them cry themselves to sleep. You will learn the difference between a “something is wrong” cry and a “I’m a baby and don’t know what to do so I’m going to cry” cry. Make sure they are safe in their bassinet/ crib but know that it is fine to let them cry.

Look there is plenty of bullshit blog advice out there, so ignore it, but more importantly, know this:

IT DOES NOT MAKE YOU A BAD PARENT IF YOU LET THEM CRY THEMSELVES TO SLEEP

You got this OP, stay strong!

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Pricey, but our twins have done really well with the SNOO

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Don’t agree with PwC1. Might not be a surprise, but every child is different 🤓. I do not believe in blueprints. Ours was exactly like you describe and had been very focused on our presence ever since. Literally from day one. First year was very tough, then it got slowly better and kid is a very lovely one now! Check out dr. Sears if you want, helped us with understanding our kid better (although I don’t support everything he writes about high-need babies).

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We put our mattress on the floor in the farthest part of the house. And let him cry it out. Took about 8 days or so but worth it.

In hind sight, we could have moved his mattress away. Whatever. Cry it out is the point.

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happiest baby on the block. buy DVD on amazon..best 10 dollars I ever spent

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YouTube super swaddle

Also, my girl only naps about 40mins at a time. Sleeps a lot at night though

I feel for you. I have 2 kids. It gets easier. Try to sleep when the baby does. First 2-5 mom that are the most difficult

Look up the program “Taking Cara Babies”. It’s helped us a lot for tips and sleep exercises for our 7 weeks old

Yeah, we’ve tried a few different swaddles - one that we’ve even given the nickname of the “straight jacket” haha (the Ollie). He falls asleep in the swaddle in our arms and then we put him down and he starts to move around in the swaddle, realizes he’s in a swaddle, and just freaks out! We bounce back and forth: should we leave his arms out, should we not swaddle at all, should we swaddle him after he’s asleep...? 🤕

Pwc1 is right. Letting them cry it out is the best way. I have 2 teenagers now.

Sleep scheduling helped our kid when when we encountered regressions.

Find his sleep cues - red hue skin around eyes, eye rubbing, rubbing ears, fussy when other needs met (food, diaper, discomfort, boredom) schedule sleep 3 hours apart - sleep to sleep or wake to wake. If he sleeps during nursing more then 15 min - wait for next sleep cue or an hour before putting him down.

Standardize process ‘sleep cues’ - nurse 30 min before. At sleep time - close blinds, turn on sound machine, change diaper, put on swaddle, then the 4S’s(sway,shush,shake,suck) we did no pacifier for our second which helped with other issues later. Sing a song. Do the same thing in he same order every time.

Try to offer him to nurse more often during the day so he doesn’t try to get his calories at night. Limit distractions during nursing so he gets to the high fat ‘hind milk’.

If swaddle itself is the problem we did a zippity zip when - but it may be too early for him. We started using it at 4 months.

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