How do I start the divorce process? Do I have to get a lawyer? Help...!

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I went through a mediator — worked really well

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I recommend the mediation process. Even easy divorces run into challenges. E.g. my easy divorce could be disrupted over a set of candle sticks that were a wedding gift from my side that she took. Nice to have someone in the middle to explain how it is, rather than how it might be.

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Look online for rules in your state. If no children and you think assets can be clearly divided, it’s possible to diy with no lawyer.

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This is my situation - no kids and assets seem pretty easy to divide.

You can do this online or go to a court and ask for the papers to file if you are on good terms with your partner and have no reason to not trust them.

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Sorry to hear this Op. it’s not as easy just hiring a lawyer , especially when kids are involved

Depends on state, amount of marital property, kids, and whether you guys are seperating amicably

You can DM if you need someone to talk to about this

Going through it now. Depends on what you have together. If you have kids definitely. But other assets as well. Also depends on if you trust them.

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