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I have a yard and I’m still exhausted and traumatized, so I can imagine how much worse what you describe was. Please seek out help! It’s a cheesy analogy but the “put your oxygen mask on first” is valid here. You will be better able to care if you can get some relief yourself.
I can’t imagine. I’m so sorry! I would find a therapist and get on some meds. What you’ve done through is traumatic and you need to deal with it. Are you able to take some time off from work? Even just using personal days or vacation, you need to take care of yourself. Hang in there!
Yes. NYC mom of a 4 year old and 4 week old. Things have improved the past couple weeks with more ability to get outside and it not feeling like total Armageddon but it has been incredibly hard and exhausting. If I’m honest I’m so grateful I had my second because maternity leave at least provided relief from the WFH aspect.
Anecdotally I lived in New Orleans during Katrina and had to evacuate and experienced a lot of anxiety during the months that followed (no prior history). Went to a therapist and between a few sessions just to work through the feelings and some anti-anxiety meds i took as needed for a couple months it did a world of difference. I mention this because she did at one point state that I was likely experiencing shades of PTSD and the past couple months have reminded me a lot of that time with respect to the uncertainty and lack of control.
You have every right to feel whatever you’re feeling and even if you wouldn’t categorize it as ‘severe’, if it’s impacting your daily outlook I gl highly recommend talking to someone. The catharsis can be very try healing in and of itself!
Good luck and hang in there 💪🏻
Dear OP - I hear you. So sorry to hear about this. Early intervention is so important with trauma, so getting help as early as possibly is key. Even simply starting talk therapy can go a long way. You will be glad you did looking back. I am also struggling, and I am staring to see impact on the kids. Time to get some help.
Just echoing the same advice and adding that I felt weird about going on meds but it’s made me a much better mom and professional. I have teens in the burbs and although we’ve had our challenges (my older one suffers from severe anxiety and depression) I said to my husband several times that I couldn’t imagine having little ones through this. Let alone in a NYC apartment. So yeah, you did have it really rough and PTSD is more than valid. Sending hugs.
I hear you and am definitely feeling the same. You aren’t alone, OP!
You’re not alone. I have never been this lonely, exhausted, and overwhelmed. I have 2 kids school aged, my parents are living in our in law, I’m WFH long hours, and my husband went back to work outside the home for 3 days a week. I’m so sad and I miss the normal life we once had. Days run together, I am mentally and emotionally worn down. I dunno. Someday this will end, and we’ll look back and it won’t be so painful. This is like the worst breakup you’ve ever had X a million. Eventually, the heart mends. You fall in love again. We are all in the same place-we’re mourning what once was and yearning for this hellscape to be over. Hang in there.
I feel you. I’m with you. Got a 3 and 6 year old and I’m constantly exhausted whether I’m working or with them. There is just NO break. I’m either working or keeping kids from fighting or prepping stuff for them or cleaning and just struggle to get enough sleep to feel whole. I’m struggling.
Came here to say this. It's so hard with the non-stop fighting, crying, feeding, potty help, cleaning and all the while working full-time. I'm struggling too. I've given up on getting enough sleep, I'm just trying to be as productive as my teammates.
There have been some pros but overall it’s been rouuuuuuugh.
I could have written this myself! We finally left and drove across the country in May. It was weird leaving NYC and seeing how other places were living, mostly normal, in some you’d never know a pandemic is happening. I definitely felt PTSD and am not even sure it’s worn off yet. I see how it affected my five year old too-he is full of social anxiety that wasn’t there before. The thing I’ve found comfort in is nature-just getting outside as much as possible.
Not in NYC, but I think this is universal. Solidarity!