Does anyone have a positive story to share about overcoming a big issue? Has anyone leaped forward in life this year? Looking for some inspiration to get over this rut

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Thank you!

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I have been at EY for 12 years in 3 different offices. 2 years ago was the move to the current EY office. I was given double the work than everyone else with bad teams. But my ego and attachment to firm wanted me to prove myself in this new office and I kept going. As time goes by I learn a lot about this office and group specifically about how minorities struggle. Though I was a minority I am a top performer and quite assertive to feel like I was getting a biased treatment. I started to see how some of those bias was affecting my own team members. One of my managers started treating me differently as well and never understood why. It took me long to comprehend that this group always functioned this way and treated minorities differently and created a fear based culture. However non minorities were always given the benefit of the doubt. No one said anything because they were worried about retaliation. Finally, my mental health took a toss because of me not being able to change this office and help others. I went to counseling and finally they helped me understand that I cannot change everyone around me and that my attachment to the firm was deterring me to look beyond. It was a toxic life of two years with me struggling everyday with fear inducing PPMDs, groups treating minorities differently. I was trying to break a glass ceiling but then realized if I don’t give this up I will break myself. I finally found a job and I am leaving EY. I am already feeling so much better. I found a job full remote, double the pay and VP title. My life took a 360 degree turn and all I had to do was let go!

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