My sister and I have recently both come to the realization that our parents guilt us into spending time with them or visiting them and the guilt causes us both to shut down. Our dad is the main offender, often reminding us how little time we have left with him, asking us why we’re leaving so soon or reminding us about all the good deeds and sacrifices made. We’ve both noticed this shift in our relationship with our parents after graduating from college and starting our own adult lives. Continued

Just found out that my favorite aunt, who claimed I was her “favorite” niece, chose to leave all her valuables to her other two nieces who never visited or called her once in the last ten years. My aunt passed away suffering from cancer last year and didn’t have her own kids. I was there by her side throughout her battle. I still wish I had done more, made her life easier. I probably sound petty, but a part of me is forcing me to re-evaluate every interaction I ever had with her.

I don’t want to stop living a double life. I’m a 29yo bi guy living in a liberal city and I’ve dated a guy(29m) for 5 years. I fly back to my conservative small town and pretend I’m straight for my parents (and extended family) because I don’t want to disappoint them or cause them any pain. I love them and I love my bf, and I want to keep both aspects of my life as they are today. My bf wants to meet my parents but I really don’t want to bring that drama into my life

Why is Maddie trying to prove her love so badly??? He’s not ready! He’s conflicted 😐

Everyone likes me because I'm a doormat with no boundaries. I do anything and say anything to make people happy. I will think what you think I should think. Will you be my friend?

The biggest thing I keep running and running around my head- after 8 months, why did he drop me? When he texted ending it l….it wasn’t me, like we weren’t us, his words were from someone else, like I didn’t matter. It doesn’t matter how much it wasn’t about me, how he chose to end it, and that’s what crushed me. Who I thought I knew was wrong. I want to know how close he was to loving me.

Would anyone consider their senior colleagues to be their genuine friends?

Secretly glad October is coming to a close. I have two friends doing "Sober October" and I love them but it's insufferable. They keep saying things like "Ugh this is so hard, I don't know how you ...

How do I start the divorce process? Do I have to get a lawyer? Help...!

Did yall hear about the Chicago mom who had her kid taken away because she wouldn't accept that her child was transgender? As a parent, that's actually kind of scary that the government would that with no basis of abuse or neglect. Smh

Best Christmas things to do with a two-year-old?

So I have been seeing a guy for 4 months. We have a pay disparity.. he earns less than I do (by quite a bit). He has mentioned a few times that he’s worried I’ll get bored of him when I know he can’t afford the same things I can. I think we are beginning to move past this, but now he’s starting to mention things like ‘I am really broke this month’, and last weekend he told me his mum has lost her job and he’ll have to probably pay her rent. I have a lot of sympathy for his situation … tbc

SO said he couldn’t receive letters during Ranger School, but finding info online that I can send. Any insight? Maybe he doesn’t want the distraction?

Any book recommendations to gift my cousin sister? She studied (masters) psychology and is a trained classical dancer.

I thought that the occasional visits from the recently divorced single mother that moved in down the hall was the best thing that ever happened to me. I was wrong, getting that mouse jiggler is the best thing that ever happened to me.

What role/s do your friends have that you're most envious of? Starting to do research on my next move, and would like to know what others have top of mind....

My wife is in sales at Mercedes and she has been averaging $200k a year and growing YoY. She loves her job, however she works long days and barely gets time off. We plan on having kids within the next year or two, and it’s highly u likely that she’ll be able to keep her current gig. We want to find a career that allows her to work remote or that at least gives her a better work life balance so that she can see her kids grow up. Should she get certifications to give her a shot at adtech?Too late?

GF is 32 and I’m 28. She wants kids within 2 years, understandably. I never envisioned having kids that early (more like late 30s), but I like her a lot. Anyone else gone through something similar?

Does ADHD have a big impact on your memory? It feels like if I don't have constant reminders set or leave notes for myself I can forget ANYTHING even if it's really important to me. I think it's making my partner feel like I don't remember the things they say or don't care to listen. What can I do?? Not on medication but if it helps with this I'd take it.

I'm actually happily married with a stable, normal life now, but I like lurking in the confessions bowl because I love all the messy drama.

Anybody here a single mother by choice? Would love to chat.

Anyone know of mid-level copywriter openings in New York right now?

Anyone in FP&A hiring?

Affordable places near LA/in CA to learn to snowboard?

Any Van Morrison fans here?

Best travel pillow?

Hi fishes,
After clearing an online test for Medtronic and a technical interview, HR told me to send some documents and also shared some forms to be filled. Does that mean I got the job? :D

Anyone have recommendations on the best resources for PE recruiting prep, assuming I’m starting from square 1 (aka little knowledge of private equity mechanics)? Thank you!! 🙏🏻

Anyone willing to sublease a town home/2 bed apartment in Atlanta suburb?

Anyone wants to look at our charts together?

Anyone ever heard of Credigy?

Someone teach me how to flirt! How do I let this guy know I’m into him?

What would be the best overall consulting firm to work for as a Cybersecurity Consultant? Looking to advance my knowledge and earnings potential.

Started the internal GC process in October 2018. Today I-485 status changed to "we ordered your new card." My jail free card is finally on the way I guess. Hope everyone with pending I-485 gets your GC soon!

Need 11likes for dm please

When you raise funds for your club where do you keep the funds until it’s time to use them? Admin would not allow us to fundraise last year and I really want to push back for this coming year but I am not sure how to approach it.

Has anyone had a service dog? Did you bring them to work? Looking for experiences and feedback. TIA!

Just got into a minor car accident over the weekend. The other person is claiming injuries but hard to believe since the damage to car was minimal. Feel worried Never been in an accident be4 advice?

I feel like my insurance company bait and switched me. For initial prescription and subsequent refill was $0. Went to pick up today and was going to be $500. Glad there’s alternatives but who would pay $500 for a month’s worth of pills.

Might be the wrong bowl but finding it extremely difficult to focus on work post busy season. It’s been 2 weeks since we filed and I’m still taking lots of naps and breaks (I’m talking like 3-4 cumulative hrs worked during the day). Idk if I’m taking longer to recover from busy season bc I’m getting old or if I’m over public accounting (but then where do i go). Tried to schedule time with a therapist but everyone has a months-long waitlist so next step might be trying to find a life/career coach

Wish I would stop thinking, I think too much, process things over and over again in my mind, when I sleep it continues in my dreams- no rest.

How do you detach from work? I’m wired at this point to be so attached that even when I’m off I’m super stressed out, and have to look at emails and keep up or else I get severe anxiety. Anybody?

I'm on the verge of a panic attack. help

Anyone else feel lethargic and sleepy? I feel like I'm getting very slow and dull mentally and physically. How can I stop this? Work out? Eat more fruits?

This is kinda weird but is anyone paranoid? I've been so paranoid lately. Like if I'm driving, I visualize me in a car crash. If my parents call, I get paranoid that they have bad news.

Anyone else?

Anyone read “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck”? Is it worth reading or is it another stale self help book?

How do you know when it’s time to get help? I’ve never seen a mental health professional but I just don’t feel like myself lately, a lot of which I think is attributed to quarantine.

Just a friendly reminder that May is Mental Health Awareness month!

I've started doing meditation with this group called The 'Art of Living' in New York City, and it's honestly changed my life. Can't recommend it enough for dealing with the stresses of modern life.

Was at the beach with friends and had one really down day there where I didn’t feel happy at all. Since I got back 2.5 days ago I’ve done nothing but watch tv, sleep, and barely eat. I hate this

How do those of you that struggle w/depression handle working at home? Going in to the office gives me a reason to get out of bed in the morning but I’m struggling today due to offices closed (snow)

Does anyone here have OCD or have a partner with OCD? My spouse has severe contamination OCD and I struggle with how best to support, but not enable them... any tips?

I went to excellent schools, passed all my cpa exams the first time around in 3 months, got a job at a Big4, work on the biggest client in my office. Yet I constantly feel like I don’t belong cont...

How old is too old to live in an apartment? 30, single, no pets, medium high cost of living. Feel like I’m wasting money but also hesitant to be a homeowner living alone in a home.

Does anyone think that it’s wrong to just not need a lot of companionship? I have an SO, decent family members and I guess a few friends. And I really don’t feel the desire to surround myself with peo