I went to excellent schools, passed all my cpa exams the first time around in 3 months, got a job at a Big4, work on the biggest client in my office. Yet I constantly feel like I don’t belong cont...

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I'm 100% with you, OP. It got so bad that I get "wish she has more self confidence" in every one of my reviews. I'm seeing a therapist hoping that she could help me on that front (among others).
Keep reminding yourself that YOU ARE ENOUGH! I know a small part of you know that these feelings are unreasonable, so hold onto that and keep fighting!

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I never feel like I’m good enough :( I know that’s not true but I can’t shake the feeling.

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I feel like an imposter, a fraud, and it’s only a matter of time before I’m found out. I feel like I’ve skirted by entirely on luck and happenstance, and that I’m inevitably bound to fail. Do any of you ever have this feeling? It sucks to say the least.

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This is not a reflection of your competence but your experiences - do you have trouble finding similarities between you and your teammates? That plays a huge role, especially when the people you don’t jive with are more senior. If possible, try to get exposure on different teams (or larger teams with more personality types). Clearly you belong, it’s just connecting the dots.

I recommend this book, which would be applicable regardless of gender.

THE CONFIDENCE CODE: The Science and Art of Self-Assurance--What Women Should Know

I have the same problem as well KPMG 1; every review says I need to be more assertive...I also relate to OP as well...I am often told by coworkers that if the “had my educational background and opportunities “ they would have used that to their advantage. It’s frustrating as I used to be confident and “light up the room”... a few months in PA and I am neither:(

Trust me. That feeling can still creep in after you’ve been around for years. There are days and projects where I feel exactly the same as you’re feeling. I don’t know what else to say but that I found that faking the confidence to myself is sometimes the best way for me to get past that. I remind myself that no one else has my experiences and that I am where I am because I am smart enough to be here. Hope that helps.

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