Feels bad man

My range of voice and input to a convo diminishes for reasons including:
1) Guilt - if you’re not delivering quality work or not quick enough to keep up with the subject of work..

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I hear you.

I think for us, the importance of anticipation and preparation are vital as it gives us the confidence we need to speak up, even if we'd like more time to digest

Secondly, another struggle for me is that I don't talk just to talk. If someone is driving and the meeting is going well, I'm not going to ask rhetorical questions or do meaningless affirmations - I will speak up only if I am adding true value. However this makes certain people perceive us as not engaged or informed.

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Sub-bullet of 1) - reasons for being slow to grasp - new context, brain fog, insecurity of not being quick enough...
2) overstimulation from work, crowds, loudness etc.

Then enters a vicious circle....Anyone feel me peeps?

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I hear you OP. I am facing this issue as well. My plan of attack for now is to prepare ahead of meetings and directly ask my seniors to give me a heads-up on the work plan. And when I do follow the plan I usually contribute well and my work gets noticed. But the hard part for me right now is to keep doing it every week. If I slip from doing it for a week, I feel like I hit ground zero again

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D1 - I got that a lot at my last consulting firm. I try to work on it but it sucks that’s the perception that it gives off.

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It gets better with time IMO. If you really care about this as a career, you’ll find a way now to act in meetings that reinforces who you want to be while staying true to yourself.

It gets easier when you are the acting manager or the one who has to run meetings. Hang in there!

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And do we think these feelings of anxiety, while more extreme for us ,do get better with recurrence ie time? Do we get more verbally fluid and adaptable over time? Or is this a carrot not worth chasing (ie work on amplifying your strengths and not on bringing to average your weaknesses)...

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