Do you share details about raises/bonuses/other financial gains with friends or do you keep it to yourself? I have a few friends who will tell me everything from how much money they make to how much their husband spent on them for their bdays to how much their parents make?? To me that feels like bragging/being arrogant. It’s also the way they say it, feels very much like seeking validation to me.

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Sometimes. In one instance where my friend and I work at the same place, we learned through comparing they were making less than the pay range for their role… and had no idea (we both work in different parts of HR). Now they know and can have a convo about it. But I’ve also got family who may 1/4 of my salary - I don’t share good news with them because they compare and feel bad. So it just depends.

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Love this.

I don’t share with friends. I do share with colleagues on my team for pay equity purposes.

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I only share with peers for pay equity/ attorneys or law students who ask to get an idea of the market bc maybe they’re looking for a job. I don’t think these people are necessarily bragging, some of my friends who come from similar background as me (poor) do it because they’re just so proud of their come up …I don’t think it’s bragging

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Sometimes I’ll mention raises and bonuses but not the amounts thereof, and only in the company of other friends who do the same. So it’s like “woo congrats!” but numbers aren’t mentioned. In my case it’s all knowable from googling though.

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I’ll share good news like this with good friends but don’t provide details like numbers or anything

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I'll share if they ask me

If we are in the same industry, yes. Otherwise no.

I wouldn’t cause if they make less they’re probably gonna feel bad just my opinion tho

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