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McKinsey & Company Any advice to help prepare for data science analyst role at top consulting firms (McKinsey & Company EY Boston Consulting Group etc)? Any materials, open source platform recommended to take on freelance data science project? When should I start actively looking and applying? I am a new grad who is working in tech as a marketing analyst I’m looking to pivot to marketing& sales data science consulting next year. Would like someone with similar backgrounds offer some practical tips.
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Fake it till you make it 😂
Lol I cant! We're talking about moving in together
Come clean. If you continue to lie, it will just snowball and get worse. Before I moved in with my partner, we talked about all our finances. Every couple may approach finances differently, but budgeting for a life together is pretty important..
If I’ve learned anything from Hallmark movies it’s to come clean. And tell them sooner than later. If you wait, they’ll find out in some terrible way and it will be a lot harder to explain and apologize. Skip all the drama and tell the truth, you got this!
1. Get "laid off".
2. "Find the best job you can" (current one).
3. Pray your partner never finds out.
4. Become a better person and never do this again.
I'm not sure how you can get a job that jumps from 80k to 270k. But even if you made that much you should be frugal. Just tell them you should be frugal. How much money you make shouldn't factor into your relationship. When you feel comfortable about coming clean, honesty is always best.
Read Jordan Peterson’s 12 rules for life. Take it seriously. Changed my life.
Next time if you lie, make it realistic. Only option is to come clean.
Tell her and see if she can accept you with your lows. It’s the best real life scenario although you have to convince her that you are not ashamed of your salary. Technically speaking you can have food and shelter in your salary which is what required to survive :)
Come clean, but I feel the more important thing to analyse is why you feel the need to project something about yourself that is demonstrably untrue in the first place? It’s not the most impressive thing to hear anyway, because it’s not a measure of your actual worth, and it’s doubly upsetting when they realise you lied about it — so why bother.
So I’d look into that.
Come clean, not worth changing jobs for that and work to stop comparing your success to others.
Come clean, you’ll gain nothing by lying. And I’m sure you’ll feel less of a burden knowing that you’re completely transparent with your partner. Plus, if you do want to make 200k+, you can def work towards it 💜
“Whatever you had to do to get it, is also what you have to do to keep it”.
For example, there are a lot of Fitness Influencers who claim themselves to be “all natural” — Lies.
They’re juicing behind the scenes to get all the likes, congratulations and applause from complete and total strangers. Why? Often because we seek the validation of others instead of standing on our own self-confidence. However, externalizing self-confidence — an oxymoron in and of itself — is like building a house on quicksand — It can never last.
I don’t blame or shame you for the lie. We’ve all done it — a lot lol. Rather, I propose some homework. Reflect on your situation to determine :
1. Why you felt the need to lie in the first place?
2. Why did you attach your own sense of “value” to your salary?
3. If you bear your soul and your partner and they leave you because of it, did they actually care about you or just your money?
Lastly, 80k is nothing to sneeze at lol. You’ve done well financially and I hope that you can look in the mirror and see that for yourself. Best of luck to you going forward.
Come clean you will be surprised how your friends will actually help you your salary grow
You should both come clean AND find a job that would pay you more. Good luck!
No, what we will achieve in lying about salary
I allways lie when i apply on new jobs. I allways say way more than i earn
Come clean and get the job for more pay. Why not both?
If you think she cares that much about your salary that you had to lie in the first place, she ain't the one...
Lying doesn’t help anybody out including yourself!
Come clean
Lol this is honestly pretty sad. You shouldn’t need lie about how much you make and if you are, you’re attracting the wrong people.
Ahhh! Please come clean, tell them why you felt the need to do this and how you are planning to grow your income. I would be pissed if I were your partner but if you had a solid plan to work things up I would be less pissed (I think). Here's to compassion - its a tough economic time and I can understand the pressure you felt to impress your person!