Hey guys,

This is an embarassing question to ask but every time I go on a date, guys keep pestering me how am I single and 34. I am too exhausted to answer it.

I know the stereotype is that something is wrong with us. I have days where I can't keep my chin up anymore

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I would say “probably same reason as to why you are single at <insert their age>”. I hate answering this question. I mean obviously things didn’t work out so far which is why someone would be single lol. If they keep pestering, then probably they are not the kind of guys you want 🙃

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I had someone ask me this. I just turned around and asked him the same question. “So tell me why it’s taken you a full year to meet someone.”

Alternative would be to say “well, looks like I was waiting for you.” Or “I don’t take these decisions lightly”.

And If you pester me on something so petty, you’re probably not my type.

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I can relate. I just try to be polite and talk **** about them after they reject me.

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