Started talking to this guy through group a group telegram and one day he offered to pay for my lunch as I had helped him out with something. Since then he has been offering to pay for my dinners, salon visits, shopping etc and I have accepted 3-4 times. I am in a steady relationship and my boyfriend doesn’t know about this. The other guy just says he likes paying for my stuff and there’s no agenda. Is this a little weird?

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Now you know darn well this isn’t acceptable but if you want to continue and be deceitful then do you. But that guy is grooming you for something

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Always an agenda of some sort.

Just my opinion, you're putting yourself in a potentially bad situation

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You get paid more than enough as a staff. Is your salary enough for a luxurious lifestyle? No. Is it nice to get free stuff? Sure. Would you at some point have to pay for it one way or another? Also yes.

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Your boyfriend deserves so much better than this

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Why do you ask this question after accepting the offers several times? Just stop it immediately

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I hope you’re not sharing your dinner, shopping and salon locations. There is no such thing as free money.

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Curious? How does he pay? Giftcards or just reimburses you 😆

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OP, genuinely curious. Since this is 100% innocent on your side, why haven't you told your boyfriend about this? If I received cool gifts from a friend, I would tell my SO. Nothing to hide.

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Also OP, you came to Fishbowl to ask if this was weird. The answer is Yes, it is not normal for a coworker to pay for your shopping, food, and salon visits. His not your dad or significant others, nor is it a boss covering a business expense.

Ergo, it’s weird and there is some agenda even if he says there isn’t.

Find someone like this for my gf, I literally want people to pay for her stuff so I do t have to pay

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So why you are accepting payments? A past of sugar baby?

This the same type of girl constantly telling everyone she’s “independent”

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