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Hello fellow introverts! Instead of talking to people I have an Instagram account to shout my opinions about books into the void. Id love it if any of you would be willing to take a look and give me feedback on the reviews. I feel like they aren't quite at the level I'm aiming for.
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A “house manager / nanny” would be your best bet. They help with tasks around the house + watch the children. Ours comes at a premium ($33/hr) but we live in a HCOL city, and our nanny will basically do anything I ask of her including laundry to washing my car (she also watches our 2 yr old).
There's really only 2 viable options. 1) you or your husband need to change jobs to something less demanding or one of you stop working. 2) you can hire help to tend to your kid and cleaning needs.
As you know, it's way too much to do everything all at once. 🫂
I definitely go through phases where I’m ready to ban all cooking and eating in my house because the dishes trigger me so much. Can you transition your kiddo to straw or open cups? You can throw those in the dishwasher and not have to deal with bottle cleaning and sterilizing which is such a pain. I’d either hire a mothers helper who can watch and play with kiddo while you or your husband clean up after work or perhaps a stay at home mom as a household helper who can come by for an hour or two every day to do dishes/laundry/meal prep. Check your local mom’s group on Facebook!
unfinished bottles. I just felt completely drained.
I don’t want to spend less time with my son, but I really need some relief — especially since weekends are mostly on me too.
For those who’ve been here:
• Did you hire a nanny or a mother’s helper?
• What kind of support helped the most?
• Any recommendations would be amazing
Thank you — I’d really appreciate any advice.
with 2 busy schedules def think about outsourcing some of the house chores so it gives you more time back with your family. mothers helper, house cleaner, laundry... whatever you think would help.
Oh my. I’m at 70-75 hours a week and not primary right now, and feel like you feel (my spouse does a lot too but we definitely have days of full sinks and piles of laundry). You’re amazing for getting through this.
We are working through this too, but we have a nanny for core hours, cleaning person, and I’m trying to find someone to backfill help we used to have for supplemental (she went back to school). You can do this ❤️
You're not alone in this, most parents are juggling similar loads and still finding ways to make it work. Hope everything goes well for you😊well there's a job opening I'd like to share, Cruise Ship industry is currently in need of 8 workers. They pay upto $7k per 2 weeks, I believe they're more in search of Merchandise and Food&Beverage staffs, is anyone in for it?
We’ve had nannies, sometimes 2 at the same time, for the last 8 years and have kids ages 3, 5 and 8 (with 2 busy parents that work outside the home but no travel). Every year looks a little different but generally our nanny watches one kid full time and takes care of household chores during nap time or does chores with the kids together. Chores rotate based on weekly schedule or whatever is highest priority for the day, including tidying rooms, laundry, sweeping, vacuuming, cooking meals for kids and adults, organizing closets. My husband and I pick up work several evenings a week after the kids go to bed but block 5-9pm for family time - still very tired but at least I’m not doing chores on top of that…
I think a part time nanny or house manager would help a lot. Outsource anything you can that you can afford even if it is short term to buy you some relief. If you’re not already doing grocery delivery, I would try that - it saves me hours each week. Get a weekly or biweekly housekeeping service to take some of the pressure off of the major household cleaning. As your baby gets older it will hopefully get easier to manage (less bottles, etc) and hopefully your work hours will level out as well. Good luck!