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You just made me appreciate my husband more.  Although he does get frustrated when he comes home and there’s a bunch of packages and I haven’t even gone outside to pick them up. I even think that’s unreasonable. 😂
Start harping on the benefits of intermittent fasting and encourage him to give it a shot?!
For real, though, he's a grown man and should be able to figure out his own breakfast or skip it. My husband only gets a home cooked dinner out of me. Breakfast and lunch, he's on his own.
He’s a grown adult, he can sort out his own meals during the work week. Weekends you can treat him (when you have time).
I am sorry to say female aren’t slaves to anyone like male aren’t slaves to anyone either
Why would you ever cook for a boss? That’s laying the ground for unrealistic expectations. Just ignore the noise and how he feels and focus on your actual job and delivering in a way where your WORK and performance makes you indispensable.
They are talking about their domestic partner, not work.
I need to know what were you making him? I assume his love language is food?
How about the two of you do all the meal prep together on Sundays then he can grab it and heat and eat. Plus would show him the amount of time it takes. My ex was like this, once I took him grocery shopping and had him cook with me he calmed down.
Are you noticing other trends with the forgetting? Depending your ages, this could be a sign of early dementia, someone that doesn’t like change, time blindness or just really likes your food.
There are other ways to show love in acts of service.
Please have a conversation to make sure the two of you are on the same page.
The issue is a lack of respect and appreciation for your time. Whatever you do, don't just try to just meet his expectations while juggling your other responsibilities. It will never end, you'll be exhausted, he will never appreciate it, and you'll be miserable. Believe me--I was stuck in that trap for years.
Beware of couples therapy. My informal survey of friends says that most of the time they just tell wives to give their husbands more sex. Which is the last thing you need to hear.
If he has a sense of humor, consider finding a funny way to demonstrate how ridiculously inequitable the situation is. If he doesn't have a sense of humor, dump him.
Happened to me as well! I just don’t do it anymore… is hard to deal with it, hard not to deal with it! If you already had a conversation, did you see any changes?
It sounds like you guys are not meeting each others needs (your emotional needs and his physiological needs) and it’s causing other riffs. Definitely consider therapy. I know this means committing more time to the “issue”, which is tough when time is already scares, but if things are bothering you this much, it’s due time.
NEXT! Smh
OP - maybe you can ease him gently into a new pattern where you first switch to making breakfast a couple days a week, then order delivery, and eventually downgrade to foods he can heat?
I work from home and have 3 kids. I sleep in every day while kids wake up and hubby makes them breakfast. I wake up right before work and go out to eat breakfast. The kids ask why, I tell them I’m not a morning person. It is true. If I don’t eat out for breakfast, I just won’t eat until lunch. Our kitchen is full of family in the morning, and I know I will get distracted while trying to make coffee. This unusual routine just works.
Tell your hubby my story, and maybe you can find a happy middle. 😉
Oh, forgot to mention. My hubby leaves for work and I’m the only one watching the kids all day while working from home, until he is done around 8 or 9 pm. So it doesn’t even out.
Do you know your partners love language? My husbands love language is acts of service. It is everything to him when I prioritize his needs and do something to serve him. But there are a times when that is not something I can do, I have learned to talk with him after my anger is lower and explain that I can not do acts of service with love when he makes it a chore. It will make me resent doing things for him and I don't want that, and neither does he. Discuss it with him and find a compromise.
I have also had to tell him that he makes me feel like my contributions are not valued when he acts like I can do what he wants when he wants it while I'm working. If I have time I'm happy to take a break and do things for him but if I'm busy with work during work times,.... I'm off limits.