My partner is unstable, refuses to take their meds. Regularly snaps and lashes out at me. Im leaving and I feel compelled to tell HR for my replacement’s sake. Am I out of line?

I teach freshmen who haven't met the only other single teacher in my department. Today, I asked one of them to take something to him and immediately kids started talking about how we were dating. Ugh.

I need to leave my company to grow (and bc it’s going downhill fast) but I can’t bare to leave my boss. He’s the perfect boss and makes my day brighter. I couldn’t imagine working without him. Help.

Do you drink at holiday parties? This is the first company I've worked for that does a real holiday party and I'm kind of anxious about letting my guard down around my co-workers like that...

Thoughts on Jos A Banks suits and general button-up office wear?

Am an executive assistant and There is one executive I support who is very annoying. He doesn't behave this way with backup admin assistants when am out of the office

How do you deal or work with such people?

My VP asked my fellow team member to take on a task simply because of her race to help them land a grant renewal. We’re both women of color but since I didn’t match the target audience I was not asked even though the task is on a project I am overseeing. We’re both offended with how this was handled by the VP, are we overreacting?

Could someone please suggest how to handle this situation?
My manager (Technology Director) sees me as an emerging thread to his position and stopped sharing details / trying to avoid including me in visible projects etc.,
FYI - His manager is the division head and Managing Director.
Why I think my manager tries to move me out?
- I am 18 YOE with a technically strong background
- Upper mgmt is starting to identify me as the backup for all systems. My manager tries to move me out since then

I’m kind of stuck what to do. The principal at my school is very intimidating, confrontational, and not pleasant to work for. I love teaching but feel like I have to walk on egg shells around him.

I’m have a new theory about why juniors always feel like idiots and wanted to see if anyone else thinks this makes sense. I’m a third year, and am the most junior person all of my teams (generally me, a senior or two, and a partner or two), and I always feel like I’m messing something up. Is this just because I never get to work with other juniors and don’t see the mistakes they make, and that it’s relatively normal? And FWIW I went to HYS and I’ve had a clerkship so it’s not like I’m not smart

What do you wear when your firm sends you to do law school recruitment? (I’m a woman fwiw)

I am seriously worried. I am doing my co-op and my supervisor is not giving me an easy time. I am trying to do my best even with very little direction and this supervisor constantly harassing my about things like her not being able to use google meet or to remember passwords. I feel bullied and very anxious. I am afraid she can jeopardize my visa with a bad evaluation. I have been working at midnight, on Sunday mornings but I am human, I make mistakes, she just blames me instead of teaching.

Happy Halloween! Who says Financial Professionals are not creative? Share what you dressed up as for work today?

My old employer asked me if I wanted to come back to the company as a manager. The pay will likely be much better and the position holds more responsibility than I’ve had before, so overall it would be a step up. The issue is I left the company because of an abusive manager who constantly put me down and made me feel like I wasn’t doing anything right. If I come back I’d be working under her again. I’m torn because the opportunity is great but the stress was awful. Continued in comments…

Typical days on a difficult project with a difficult partner

When emailing someone for an interview for the first time do you address them by Mr/Mrs last name or by their first name?

Was contacted by a sourcer for a big 4 firm. Five minutes into the conversation about my background she says we can’t move forward because it would be a conflict of interest since I sub for that company. Is there a way to get around this or perhaps a cooling off period? Thanks in advance.

I always make stupid mistakes or do a poorer job when I work with particular partners. I think it's because they make me more stressed. How do I overcome this barrier?

It appears J Crew is filing bankruptcy this weekend and brooks bros might not be too far behind. What are consultants going to wear when we eventually get back to work??

Do you give the office manager (who does assist you with admin tasks from time to time) a christmas present (aka cash)? I have an admin assistant so that's an obvious yes but I don't know how to handle the office manager or receptionist!

Friends, need some feedback on an idea:

I’m thinking of starting a podcast interviewing leaders at startups about their experience with specific challenges - I know, cliche, get a more original hobby, etc.

Not looking for the narrative arc of How I Built This or Masters of Scale. Instead, looking to uncover specific problems faced by companies that tried something new for the first time. What did they not see coming, how did they adapt and measure, etc.

What are your thoughts on this format?

Serious question from a happy software engineer, what do you all love about your work/actually enjoy doing during working hours?

I'll start; I'm privileged enough to have been given the opportunity to work and learn deeply on Linux and Kubernetes, and I get to tinker and play with them all day. Problem solving with them is a "fun" part of my job.

Of course most things aren't roses and sunshine, but I'd love to hear the positive parts of what you are doing, or what you like to do at work.

Who believes the whole 300 hours of study rule of thumb?

I always make stupid mistakes or do a poorer job when I work with particular partners. I think it's because they make me more stressed. How do I overcome this barrier?

Can someone help me understand the advantage of Backdoor IRA. In my case, I don’t think My taxes will be higher in retirement than they are right now (32% tax bracket currently)

I'm looking to join VISA in a strategic director role, and have already applied. However I have two offers from other fintech's on the table. However VISA is my top choice, how do I expedite the interview process?

Let’s get this bowl active and going. What are ATL fishes doing for fun this weekend?

I have friends that have back office positions but never received an offer letter & their company still doesn’t use them now. Has anyone given notice & started a new position without an offer letter? Do international companies provide something else in lieu of a formal offer letter? I know offer letters aren’t legally binding anyhow, but seems they’d provide something. (International = Canada)

Has anyone found groups in FDD that have better hours than others? If so, what group, how did you do it, and how do you stay? I’ve heard that there are groups that do IPOs in FDD that work less, although I’ve never seen an IPO group.

Do you work somewhere where quality is valued over efficiency? Where can I find this? In-house? Small boutique?

Hello , I have received box from synechron even before joining. Should j be opening it I am not sure if I want to join

How to handle your own procrastination? Any tips/advice?

How do PE exits look like for emerging market funds in Middle East (e.g Abraaj group type firms)

Hi Fishes,
Anyone working in Exxat?
Have heard very good points about the company.
Do share your views

Got an offer from Kantar Consulting to work on their retail/cpg product.
Currently working with IBM with 10+ yoe having joined IBM 10 months back. Currently at 25 lpa and getting an offer of 32 fixed+15% variable.

Now my question is - Is it worth the gamble to leave IBM and join Kantar consulting which btw is known for market research and not consulting.
Also would leaving IBM after 1 year look bad on CV?

Need 11 likes to DM. Can you please help me?

Any recommendations for a book/podcast/self study materials for a new finance attorney? I have no background in finance and was assigned to a finance group. Help me!!

Anybody on Trintellix? Thoughts ?

How do you deal with ADD and being able to clearly explain your ideas? Are meds the answer? Really don’t want to do that. Already in therapy. Plz help.

Tips for recovering from a bad interview at an awesome company? 😣 I already got the news that they’re not moving forward, yet can’t stop obsessing over the mistakes that most likely cost me an offer.

Currently sitting at home with my laptop open planning to work until 2am as usual, and after 5 minutes of staring at the screen I just broke down and started bawling...

My mental health has suffered tremendously over the past month. I have a therapist that I probably should see more of but I’m jobless and need to save. I am an aspiring entrepreneur with an inspiring business idea (to me lol) but my anxiety and depression is hindering me severely… fuck my brain. Any other founders here? It’s f‘ing tough.

Any recos for a therapist who:
- is in BK/manhattan
- takes Oxford Health
- is good for treating social anxiety
- is female (preferably but not a game changer)
?

I’ve been in therapy (off and on, but mostly on) for almost three years now. My therapist suggested I try a low dose anti anxiety med to help manage. Have you tried one? Did it help, why or why not?

My lovely fish, small recommend for anyone suffering the anxiety, I was found to have chronically low vitamin D so am now on supplements after doing a kick start course. 6 months in - Hasn't gone away, but the impact has lessened greatly and the 'recovery time' is much quicker without so much drain after.

Does anyone have a work culture that prioritizes WLB? Sometimes I feel like it's all talk for branding.

Has anyone here recovered from light to mild depression without medication? What were your tricks or natural meds?

My fear of being ghosted has become a self fulfilling prophecy. Everytime I like someone, I have panic attacks when I don't hear from them for a few days. How do I stop this cycle?

Who is bipolar and/or has major depression and/or has anxiety and/or is/has anything else? Who has been in a mental hospital? Who has been to rehab? Who sees a therapist? Who sees a psychiatrist? ...

Hey guys, all jokes aside, how does everyone have a life besides work in this industry? Weekdays I work and sleep, and I’ve worked most weekends. I’ve canceled so many plans and haven’t seen friends..

Take a break: if you’re anything like me, you’re glued to newsfeeds and maybe the markets. Give yourself a day off. Focus on things that make you happy. The news will still there tomorrow.

Signed up for improv theater to break my presentation anxiety. I'm freaking out a bit - but hopefully it will help. Wish me good luck.

How can I live with my decisions and stop changing my mind about things?

Does anyone recommend a therapist and psychiatrist in NY that actually takes insurance?

There’s no reason you have to put up with a job you hate. I spent many years working in a toxic environment with a boss who gossiped and lead through fear. He wasn’t really much of a leader but basically a foreman. And he could make my existence miserable. I admit that it wasn’t easy to find another job but the bottom line is: trust your guts. If you feel something is wrong it’s because it probably is. Don’t second guess yourself. Look for options and and fight for your mental health.

Struggling to deal with anger after a coworker I've supported in the past has back stabbed me on a long standing client. I just know I'm going to have a sleepless night. Why are people so selfish?

I was devastated when I realized I had to cut my twin sister and even my mom to some degree out of my life in order to have peace of mind. It makes me sad I feel better without their burdens. ☹️