How do you deal with passive-aggressive people? I can't seem to catch a break with this one person at work. I want to blow up and yell sometimes but I don't want it to seem like a superiority complex, so I've managed to stay calm so far. This person is capable of ruining my mood as soon as I see him and I want to not work with him at all (which isn't an option) so here I am trying to get some tips on how to manage their energy. Please help!

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Hi!
You may want to look into:
1. What <specifically> about this person makes you ruin your mood?
2. Why?
3. What’s within your control that you can do to change the situation? (How can you change your expectations / communication style / level of engagement...?)

If you’d like to chat further, feel free to message me/connect on LI. Happy to learn more and offer more concrete insights.

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If you are an overall happy person that exudes confidence keep that energy and ignore those experiences. Literally tame yourself to stay in your happy place and ignore. Negative access denied!

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Set your boundaries with that person and calmly respond to their interactions if needed. I have people that to if to me at my work. I do not interact unless needed, limit my responses, and understand that they will not change. Remember it’s work not life, family or friends. You will move on it from and it will upset you in the future, but setting boundaries for how they interact with you will help.

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The only person whose reactions and emotions you can manage are your own. I strongly recommend identifying how he triggers you and speaking with a therapist for professional advice on how to best navigate the matter.

If this person is narcissist (look up behavior characteristics), then accept the fact that nothing came be done. This should provide you some closure. Work on changing the team or role or job within/outside.
If this person is not narcissist, then understand, as others said above, what specifically is triggering those reactions and feelings in you? By staying calm you already appear to have mastered the art of staying sane, you just have to learn how best to keep staying calm and not feel the pent up frustrations (think bigger and farther than current moment).

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