How do youbset boundaries with coworkers. I feel like they won't figure out how to do stuff then I figure it out for them.

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Hahaha. Chill, man! But I agree.

First of all, stop trying to help people who didn't explicitly ask for it. I struggled with this before because of my people-pleasing tendencies and thankfully I figured out that I had to break free from those habits. Additionally, you still have every right to say no after they ask for your help. Show them how easy it is to find the proper tools and procedures they need online.

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Hmm. Don't interact with them too much. Do not always indulge with them. Also, learn to say no without explaining yourself.

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First you have no obligation to figure out the things that they cannot figure out themselves. You did not sign up for that. Second, if you want them to learn, you need to stop babysitting them. They do that because they know you will do the rest for them.

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Give them the tools to figure it out

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Some coworkers, even with the right tools, can't figure it out...

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Stop helping them. When they ask you how to figure something out that you've explained many times before, let them know gently that you've got your own stuff to work on and you can't help them. It's scary, but learning to say no and not going back on it is the best way to set boundaries.

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Leave them on read. They can figure it out.

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Tell them that you are busy and if they can send you an email with their questions. Sometimes it is easier to explain their concern through email because they can revisit the answers later.

I don't provide them with solutions to their problems. I encourage them to conduct their own research instead before they ask me for help.

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