how much of a turn off is prior drug use to someone who has never done drugs? I really like this person but they’re pretty against drugs and I’m scared to ever tell them I’ve done stuff before.

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I think the key is that the drug use is in your past.

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It’s a turn on

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I believe that honesty is the best policy. If you want a strong long lasting relationship, it has to be built on honestly and trust. I would think that you would want that person to love you for who you truly are, the good, the bad and the ugly.

If you are honest and truthful, and it ends up being a deal breaker, maybe they were not the right person. After all, it’s a part of who you are.

That being said, you can not judge them for whatever decision they make, it’s only right to be honest with them and with yourself though.

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^this 👏 they will end up finding out at some point anyways. Better for it to be early in the relationship. If it's a deal breaker for them then maybe they just aren't the right person for you

Why does it matter? You’re not doing any anymore...

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That’s what I’m hoping. Like since it’s in the past it won’t be an issue

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Depends on the drug and if any lingering consequences. If someone has a record then it’s a dealbreaker. If someone use to smoke weed and stopped then it’s not ideal but I’ll live with that

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Signals a certain level of irresponsibility and risk taking for personal pleasure

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@m1 - almost everything pleasure carries some risk. Best things in life do

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Addiction would be turn off. If more than 10 years sober not a major issue (meaning you stopped in your mid twenties for me). Some party use years ago wouldn't mind at all

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As long as you are over that phase of your life it's a non issue imo

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My wife has never done drugs and when we met I was deep in the life. I think she likes being the one who “saved” me, but I was bout done experimenting when I met her anyway.

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Depends on the drug and how long it’s been since you quit.

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Yea, this is probably true.

I honestly wouldn’t want to date someone who wasn’t okay with it

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As long as your lifestyles match up now most people won’t care.

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Would depend on how frequently it was used for me. I

I think the type of drug and the extent of use would impact how it’s brought up. If you were in a frat or a raver and did shrooms and weed, like whatever lol. If it’s more, just give your story about what got you into it and the strength it took to get out. It’d be admired and ask for help to remain on the correct path.

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