Haven’t seen bf in over 3 months due to COVID. Lately, he’s been pushing to see me but I don’t feel comfortable because he hasn’t been quarantining. He makes it sound like if I’m not willing to go see him might as well breakup. Any advice?

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1) how have you not seen each other in three months?
2) surely he could quarantine himself for two weeks before you visit?

honestly if you haven’t seen each other in three months barring some extreme circumstances i would question your passion for each other...

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OP: I’d ask him to quarantine for 2 weeks. He can live for 2 weeks without meeting up with friends in order to see you and for your health. Your risks are low but people have gotten COVID-19 from sitting across someone getting coffee for less than an hour (Taiwan traces its source of COVID and there were multiple accounts of this happening at one point lol) so I still wouldn’t risk potential long-term lung damage especially if you’re in a hard-hit area.

SM1: we no longer have true complete isolation with all the technology at our disposal. It’s not isolation lol.

EY2: I hope for your sake you also understand the importance of emotional connection. I’ve seen long distance work before and they’ve gone for more than 3 months without seeing each other.

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Why won’t he quarantine? Shouldn’t seeing you be more of a priority than doing whatever else he is doing?

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What is your living situation? If you have your own apartment, WFH, are relatively healthy and are under 60 you are at extremely low risk of serious consequences and wouldn't share it with someone else even if you do get it. It is good to be cautious, and disappointing you feel your SO is not, but complete isolation isn't particularly healthy either.

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Wow. Yeah breakup. Sounds like he’s after one thing and he’s bound it to get from you or someone else.

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Um 3 months? What's even the point of a relationship at that point?

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You should just break up. If you’re not willing to risk a 99.9% chance that you survive spending time with them, they obviously aren’t the one.

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